That’s really interesting, so you’re saying that rewording someone else’s opinion and repeating it almost verbatim back to them enhances the discussion?
I know you are joking but it’s a really good way to convey that you understood what they said, or to make sure you did. I do it all the time when being on the same page is important.
Barely relevant, but this helped my daughter’s vocabulary explode between ages 2-3. Repeating back sentences showed not only that we were listening and engaged, but incorrect words and/or pronunciation would be corrected and filtered back in the process.
I inadvertently do this with my Ukranian (refugees) staff members as well, and it does a lot for communication both ways. Especially for the one who is struggling with English more than the other.
I agree, with the caveat that it is one of the go-to moves in “How to win friends and influence people” and if it’s too obvious, people will just think that you’re either disingenuous or that you’re actively trying to manipulate them:
I do the same thing at work meetings all the time. Sometimes for my own benefit and sanity, but often if it’s something I understand I will do it for the benefit of others on the team just to make sure everyone understands. And then I’ll follow that up by asking something like “does that sound right?”
That’s really interesting, so you’re saying that rewording someone else’s opinion and repeating it almost verbatim back to them enhances the discussion?
I know you are joking but it’s a really good way to convey that you understood what they said, or to make sure you did. I do it all the time when being on the same page is important.
Barely relevant, but this helped my daughter’s vocabulary explode between ages 2-3. Repeating back sentences showed not only that we were listening and engaged, but incorrect words and/or pronunciation would be corrected and filtered back in the process.
I inadvertently do this with my Ukranian (refugees) staff members as well, and it does a lot for communication both ways. Especially for the one who is struggling with English more than the other.
I agree, with the caveat that it is one of the go-to moves in “How to win friends and influence people” and if it’s too obvious, people will just think that you’re either disingenuous or that you’re actively trying to manipulate them:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1W34wyKZlWQ
Ah no, what I do is “let me repeat to see if I understood correctly” and then tell my version.
I do the same thing at work meetings all the time. Sometimes for my own benefit and sanity, but often if it’s something I understand I will do it for the benefit of others on the team just to make sure everyone understands. And then I’ll follow that up by asking something like “does that sound right?”