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Cake day: January 2nd, 2026

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  • You are so right, omg lol. I hadn’t looked at it that way, but honestly, it has happened so many times since then.

    Just recently, I was looking for photo evidence of a structure for a project I’m working on. I needed it to get approximate dates of how long certain construction phases took for a model I was building. I was venting to one of the guys I actually get along with, saying that I was already looking at photos taken two months after the construction was supposedly done, and I still couldn’t see the structure anywhere. I literally told him, “I don’t even need a step-by-step of the construction, I just want to see it pop up.”

    Out of nowhere, that same awful guy jumps in and goes: “Well, you’re not going to see it because they built it super fast” (assuming I wanted a step-by-step breakdown). I corrected him and said I just wanted one photo where it wasn’t there, and the next one where it suddenly appeared, because that’s all I needed to work with. But he stayed stubborn, insisting, “You won’t see it because it was built in a flash.”

    I told him he wasn’t understanding me, and he had the nerve to say, “No, you are the one who doesn’t understand.” So I snapped back and told him that I did understand, but I didn’t care about what he was saying, I just needed a “now it’s not there, now it is” photo, not the “during” that he was so obsessed with. He either got mad or finally got it, because he shut up after that.

    Later on our way out, the coworker I actually like told me, “Yeah, that guy was being incredibly stubborn and didn’t even grasp what you were looking for in those photos.”
















  • The distinction between people who “get it” and people who are kind but don’t really understand actually resonates with me a lot.

    I think I just realized that part of my discomfort isn’t only about certain attitudes, but also about how I’m included in group dynamics now.

    For example, I have a friend I’ve known since elementary school and who was my best friend for years. The last time we all got together, it felt like I was practically invisible while he was off with all the guys doing barbecue stuff. Meanwhile, another friend in the group (it was actually his birthday) kept talking to me and including me in conversations. His girlfriend did too.

    Looking back, they were probably the only two people there who made me feel genuinely included. Maybe that’s part of why some friendships feel different now.