Hey! I started finding out what being trans actually means about half a year ago, and as I look into it more and more, I am realizing just how much of that stuff relates to me, or sounds like what I want to be, and I really wanna look further into it.

I was wondering what are some good resources, stories of trans people or other possible signs, that would help me answer my question.

My main issue is that I do not like my body. I always thought it was because I am fat, but now that it could be something else, I have no idea where to look and see which one it is, which is something that has really been bothering me lately. I also don’t like quite a few aspects of “male” society, but again, that could just be normal.

I just want to know who I am, I wanna be able to question myself and find out things about myself I would’ve not found on my own

Please don’t reply with “you are trans” or “you aren’t trans”, I want the only person that answers that question to be myself.

I’d just appreciate some help, some resources, something to read up on to find out what’s wrong with me

  • amethyst@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 year ago

    For me, what helped initially was not to focus on whether I was trans or not, but on specific questions like whether I wanted to start HRT.

    Because when I read the list of changes it caused, none of them seemed bad, and many seemed really desirable!

    That helped reduce my dilemma from a complicated question of “identity” (“Am I trans? Am I nonbinary?” etc), to a more specific choice I could proceed with.

    • LambdaDuck@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      1 year ago

      same here! the labels aren’t the important part, it’s often easier to focus on the specifics first. i’ve currently settled on the non-binary label as a way to not decide, since it can basically mean anything and the label is likely to change in the future when i know more about myself