For context, I have a young child. I’ve spoken to his PCP (we’re lucky enough to see a doctor regularly because of my job) about screening for autism but she’s so far only given them general developmental milestone screenings. I don’t know whether my child is autistic. I am, though I was never officially diagnosed, and there are people on both sides of the family with either formal diagnoses or identify as autistic but can’t access medical care (including a diagnosis) for various reasons.
My question for y’all: is there value is pushing harder for autism-specific screenings for my child? If this becomes a diagnosis, would there be value in that, particularly for a child? What resources at school would they get access to, if any? Are there potential harms to a formal diagnosis?
As an adult and given my level of functioning, I don’t see any value in seeking a formal diagnosis for myself. I’m…different*…from neurotypical people, and being able to put a label to that has very little practical impact.
*This is the kindest way I would describe myself. I don’t and have never had a healthy self-perception. Yes, I’ve gone to therapy. It ended up being a catch-22 sitatuation: the issues I was hoping to fix prevented therapy from effectively helping me.


I would say it’s worth knowing. My daughter has been diagnosed, and this helped her a lot with her anxiety. Knowing that’s not something wrong with her (she used to ask me when she was really young), but it’s just that her brain is wired differently. Depending where you live, this might also help with school. My daughter gets a bit of extra time on written tests, and she does not have to present in front of the entire class (which was horrifying), but in small groups or just with the teacher.
Thanks for the input. About how old was your daughter when she was diagnosed?
She was about 12 (she is 16 now).