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yes, please chime in!
The main reason I’m pursuing testing is because I don’t know what coping strategies do or don’t make sense - I have a lot of sensitivity to light and noise for example that I just don’t take seriously, and I think if I knew I had ASD I would maybe spend more time actually learning about it and engaging with the tools and coping strategies. Right now, I feel a lot of cognitive dissonance about thinking about myself as autistic without an “official” and objective / expert ruling.
This difficulty with accepting I might be autistic is similar to how I rejected gender dysphoria for so long - it’s a combination of denial because of fear and stigma, but also I’m worried about appropriating the experiences of people who “really” have the condition (whether being trans, or being autistic).
I didn’t think I was trans enough to be trans, and now I don’t think I’m autistic enough to be considered autistic.
Send me any resources or advice you think might be helpful, and thank you for the RSD video!
I also get a lot of value from Jessica McCabe’s How to ADHD – I bought her book a while ago and I promise I’ll start it any day now :3 I think a lot of the strategies may be appropriate for other flavors of neurospicy too.
You know the joke about how everyone who drives faster than me is a dangerous maniac, and everyone who drives slower is incompetent? We really do tend to see the world in relation to ourselves, and I think that it’s because we take ourselves as the “normal” baseline there is this fear of appropriating. ADHDers struggle with focus “more than normal”; I’m normal; therefore they must have it worse than me and I’m not part of that group.
Coming out as trans taught me that it is possible for me to be in a minority group without realizing it, and I’ve been trying to see myself and where I fit in in relation to the whole of society without centering myself. And also not to compare myself to some perceived “normal” baseline, but just play with the hand I was dealt. (I’m not trying to be maudlin there: I have qualities than I’m happy about too!)