When poet Maggie Smith’s Good Bones went viral, it helped to expose a faultline at the centre of her marriage. What happened when the true dynamic of her relationship was revealed?
Wow, mine did the same thing. Eventually he treated my work as an enemy to compete with, which was detrimental because my work is a part of me, it’s not a place I go to, it’s my craft.
Much like being a writer.
I was the one who would “not work” if the kids were sick etc, he thought very little of my contributions (which were good) to our bills etc. Like I should just presto magic money into being after not being able to work, he’d act as if I was just not working hard enough.
Even at tax return time, he literally was shocked when I told him we should be sharing the refund and he refused.
Eventually, he lost this war , and I’m happily growing in my field.
I really wanted to be married, I didn’t want to end our marriage but I couldn’t face myself with this treatment and he couldn’t understand what I was saying.
It’s so much easier to swim alone than to swim with someone dragging you downward.
I’m so sorry. No one really goes into marriage with the goal of divorce. It’s so difficult to realize when things are simply beyond repair, but I hope you only grow happier in your life, your goals, and your future.
Wow, mine did the same thing. Eventually he treated my work as an enemy to compete with, which was detrimental because my work is a part of me, it’s not a place I go to, it’s my craft. Much like being a writer. I was the one who would “not work” if the kids were sick etc, he thought very little of my contributions (which were good) to our bills etc. Like I should just presto magic money into being after not being able to work, he’d act as if I was just not working hard enough.
Even at tax return time, he literally was shocked when I told him we should be sharing the refund and he refused.
Eventually, he lost this war , and I’m happily growing in my field. I really wanted to be married, I didn’t want to end our marriage but I couldn’t face myself with this treatment and he couldn’t understand what I was saying.
It’s so much easier to swim alone than to swim with someone dragging you downward.
I’m so sorry. No one really goes into marriage with the goal of divorce. It’s so difficult to realize when things are simply beyond repair, but I hope you only grow happier in your life, your goals, and your future.