examples:
living alone: for centuries people just didnt do this and families lived in intergenerational households.
finding ”the one”: as liberal societies started promoting the nuclear family and the spouse as being the main source of emotional confidant as opposed to interconnected communities
being happy with your job: most of the times the job was just for survival
being happy/stable most of the time
And as so.eone else said, trying to act mature is a childish thing to do. So you end up with this situation where people think of themselves as emotionally mature because they bow their head sagely and repeat all the platitudes about human nature and nuance that exist to justify capitalism
Meanwhile, the people with a strong sense of self (and dare I say emotional maturity) go through life feeling their own feelings and thinking their own thoughts, unconcerned with performing maturity or thoughtfulness. Their authentic self-assuredness brings them closer to the childlike sense of wonder and possibility that liberalism as an ideology does it’s best to stamp out of us, that creative spark of genuine self-belief in the knowledge that we are alive and can act, that now is the envy of the dead.
I was just discussing the concept of “divine madness” as opposed to “madness,” elsewhere. For instance, how Turing and Jeanne d’Arc were treated, despite having no small hand in saving their respective societies. How Nazis were embraced and reintegrated into various societies, how imperialism which is extremely sick is considered “normal,” while communists are considered vile and delusional. Yet Marx’s predictions have held up very well.