This is true, but I provided examples where the attitudes of the responses will be somewhat hostile, and unwilling to consider the perspective of the poster.

The examples that I pointed out did not mention gender but are, well, somewhat adjacent to a feminist perspective in regards to how women are viewed in porn. While men can be feminists, spaces that are hostile to feminists are typically also hostile to women and their points of view.

To be clear I have no solution for ordinary interactions of discussion on lemmy, I was pointing out what it would look like to be spoken over in the context of a lemmy thread. The only true way for this to be a more friendly space to women is to have more women here, a tall order for the tech-focused social media site Lemmy.