I have this friend, N, that has recently started believing things very out of the ordinary. He said that he’s been getting into paganism and studying runes and candles. I told him that was very interesting, it sounded like a fun time and a good hobby to have. N let me know that it wasn’t just a hobby, but that it had a function and purpose, a sort of witchcraft.

I come from an academic background; it doesn’t seem healthy to me to actually believe and try to practice witchcraft, not because it might be real, but because of the mental health associations with it. So I told my concerns to N but he brushed them off, saying that people have the right to believe in what they want. I respect that, but I do not want N to fall into delusion. I let him know, as respectful as I could, that believing in witchcraft does not make it real and that it wasn’t healthy to believe otherwise. He got really bothered when I told him he should talk to his therapist about this stuff. N has a history of mental health issues and was in a deeply abusive relationship for a few years which cause him a lot of grief. I was accused of being rude and trying to impose my beliefs. His last message to me was him asking me to stop and that anyone has a right to believe what they want.

I cherish N a lot as a friend, I do not wish them any harm. I respect that anyone has a right to believe what they want, but I really don’t think this is healthy for my friend. Is there any way I can help him? Is the best way forward to just stop and let him be?

  • be_excellent_to_each_other@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    Only thing I’d add is that what you describe sounds a lot to me like Wicca. FYI for you (and I say this because of a similar experience decades ago that caught me off guard) there are likely a lot more people around you who practice Wicca than you might expect.

    Not saying everyone you know is doing it either, but I was surprised to find I had 3 people in unrelated friend groups who considered themselves practicing Wiccans - and 2 of them were in their 40s.

    I share this only as more context for you, and also if this is what your friend has discovered you can get a little more info about what it entails.