Gotta make sure other rape and sexual abuse victims always second guess reporting.
Make it always visible how victims are disbelieved and must be perfect. Make it clear that victims will be judged by things that are no fault of their own.
Comments like that are so incredibly despicable to me. They’re not talking to the sister with that comment. They’re speaking to every victim that comes across that comment.
I generally see a lot of criticism for the length of time it can take victims to report.
It’s infuriating. Like they can’t wrap their head around how difficult it is to report rape and sexual assault. No empathy at all from these types of people.
It’s very easy to believe “oh, if I were raped I would fight back and if it still happened I would report it.” It’s only after something like that happens that a person thinks (possible trigger warning)
spoiler
“hmm, there were drugs involved, I don’t know if I want to report this. I had a chance after my clothes were taken off at one point to run out of the place naked and screaming and didn’t… how do I explain that? I’ve always hated mass incarceration and police… do I really want to be a part of reporting something?”
etc. I don’t know if it’s actually malicious when some people don’t believe victims; it’s just some people can’t envision not reporting things immediately.
Gotta make sure other rape and sexual abuse victims always second guess reporting.
Make it always visible how victims are disbelieved and must be perfect. Make it clear that victims will be judged by things that are no fault of their own.
Comments like that are so incredibly despicable to me. They’re not talking to the sister with that comment. They’re speaking to every victim that comes across that comment.
What is ironic is even when a victim is “perfect,” by the time they realize they want to report what happened, that perfection may be gone.
I generally see a lot of criticism for the length of time it can take victims to report.
It’s infuriating. Like they can’t wrap their head around how difficult it is to report rape and sexual assault. No empathy at all from these types of people.
It’s very easy to believe “oh, if I were raped I would fight back and if it still happened I would report it.” It’s only after something like that happens that a person thinks (possible trigger warning)
spoiler
“hmm, there were drugs involved, I don’t know if I want to report this. I had a chance after my clothes were taken off at one point to run out of the place naked and screaming and didn’t… how do I explain that? I’ve always hated mass incarceration and police… do I really want to be a part of reporting something?”
etc. I don’t know if it’s actually malicious when some people don’t believe victims; it’s just some people can’t envision not reporting things immediately.
Do you believe that was the intention behind the comment or do you believe that are the consequences of that comment?
It’s the consequences.
Ok.