Hey, I hope it’s ok to post something like this here. I just wanted to say thanks for the people here^^ A long time ago I joined Reddit and tried to post, comment and communicate about stuff I liked. Only now I noticed how much I became a lurker over the time because of the negativity at Reddit. Snappy comments, no real feedback but hate, sometimes even borderline insults… After nuking and deleting my Reddit account and switching to lemmy I noticed how much I missed it. People here are way more friendly and communicate politely. At least for now… Posting is fun again, all thanks to you all^^ That’s my two cents. Thanks for reading. Love you all, keep safe. Cheers
Whatever, nerd.
Haha just kidding. I agree. I bumped into some market study about Reddit (probably on Reddit) a couple months ago that found ~95% of the most upvoted comments were 2 sentences or less. So much for deep, meaningful conversation.
Makes sense, though. If you weren’t getting much out of Reddit’s vapid content it was probably easier to escape, along with old-ish folks like me, who have lived through this type of thing many times. Reddit became pretty shitty, and I don’t see it getting any better. While purging my accounts, I took a peak at the new interface. What a hellscape without adblock and the old site on life support.
Welcome aboard!
You really got me first^^ Now I want to see the normal site without any adblocks etc. I never used the website, installed the “official app” scrolled 2 min and switched immediately to a 3rd party app.
Someone already mentioned in another thread, but it’s also much friendlier to those of us in non-US timezones. On Reddit you’d never be heard in an 8h old thread, here you can.
After 4 years lurking on Reddit, this is so much better already and improving rapidly.
I just realized that it’s hard to imagine someone saying you should speak English because lemmy/kbin is an amaerican website. I’m sure we’ve all seen that more than once on reddit.
Hello. I’m your local Karen. Kbin is a Polish website, so you must speak Polish, starting right now! (written in English so I can be understood, obviously, but that’s not the point) /s
Posting here at the moment feels like posting on Reddit in the early days. The sense of true community was real, it was more organic content from everyday people instead of the corporate machine that it became with sponsored content, brigading, shills and even subs changing their nature from IAMA Bricklayer to IAMA Movie Star with a movie releasing tomorrow which I’m here to promote. The whole voting system went to crap and the vote numbers were completely out of touch with actual user sentiment.
As long as the fediverse has a more sustainable model and does not go down the corporate route we should be ok until the marketeers, SEOs and advertisers arrive with their thinly veiled attempts at self/client promotion.
I understand your worries but in my perception all non corparate instances will just way apart with something like this. There is already an agreement to disfederate with the Meta instances somewhere but i cant find the link again, sorry. I hope the concept will stay as it is.
I feel the same way as well. Seemed like a popularity contest on Reddit, but so far the people here are a lot more friendlier!
yep I liken reddit recently to sitting on a park bench alone, shouting your ideas to the ether and the only replies you get are passerbys that want to tell you you are wrong (often in immense detail). It used to be you could have discussion, like you might have sitting round the break room at work or in bar with friends, a bunch of like minded people on a topic.
I remember there was a specific thread in /r/darktide that I commented on and, while I will admit that the overall topic was potentially volatile given the community - or at least possibly against the collective hivemind of 'tide players - the negativity I got in that thread continually baffled me. I’d attempt to explain and re-explain over and over again and every time it was met with this…“wall” of almost…/hatred/ that I just couldn’t wrap my mind around.
One guy I swear felt like he was legitimately getting off on the hatred he was spewing - to the extent that a whole other poster commented on how messed up his responses were.
I eventually /think/ I figured out people were latching on to like a single thing I’d said in my multiple paragraphs of responses but…yeah. It was like people were only looking for that one little bone they could hang on to to be as negative and visceral as possible. It legit took me aback. And I’m only slowly beginning to realize I /don’t/ feel that over here.
Exactly the same thing happened to me over at r/idiotsincars.
Normally, everyone there criticizes any driver who makes even a small mistake, but when I commented that the “victim driver” was speeding themselves to block someone illegally passing him, they just fell over me, ripped parts of my comments out of context and downvoted me into oblivion. They even accused me of having some kind of agenda just because I wrongly assumed the signs were showing km/h, like the dashcam, and not mph. He was briefly doing 95 km/h in a 40 mph zone. I argued it doesn’t matter if it’s 40 km/h or 65 km/h at that point.
I deleted all my comments and unsubscribed from that sub instantly, not a big deal. But from then on, I was so much more hesitant commenting anything. That was almost a year ago and I’m still shocked at what random hate and insinuations can do to you.
Let’s hope something like that doesn’t spill over here.
surprisingly i also feel more confident there are nice people. i hope this will not devolve, it’d be a shame losing a friendly community
It’s exciting to see the positivity and hope everyone seems to have about lemmy/kbin and the fediverse. I think in general new and smaller social media places tend to have a more positive atmosphere. But it might last longer this time, both due to the lack of corporate interests and just because things can be small and new on the fediverse without it being as much of a problem. The fediverse overall encourages a consciousness of the types of communities you are joining and the cultural differences between them, I’m sure eventually there will be many different communities with different atmospheres and we’ll be able to make informed decisions about which to join.
kbin isn’t the same software as lemmy, but they can talk to each other (the joy of the fediverse). Glad you’ve found your voice as a result! I also found the culture of most subreddits hard to deal with, too many egos clashing.
You’re totally right, even subreddit with the same interests “fought” against each other…
Yeah i agree with you, i was def more of a lurker on reddit but it feels good to communicate with wonderful humans like you.
Same about me. In here fediverse, I feel every comments I got are all living comments if it’s upvoted or not.
totally, no matter of context they are all well written and polite. Even if you’re totally wrong you get friendly replies with proper feedback.
I figure this thread is as good as any to put my first comment on. Thank you for the positive message! I felt the same way on Reddit, where I was a lurker for 8 years, just helping people when I could when I was certain I could help. I’ll try to do my best to enjoy commenting & connecting with others ♥️
Yes I hear you. I guess for the most part we all want the same thing here and there is a space for everyone provided you are respectful of others. I think everyone is excited because we are building something new, a new chapter of the internet.
Welcome aboard.
It’s really nice coming on here and seeing 10-20 comments versus the 1-2 I often got on Reddit. It’s really nice here
I definitely agree. On Reddit, I would comment pretty rarely, and many times I’ve written out comments and then deleted them because it wasn’t worth the effort.
Man, the amount of time I wasted writing comments only to think, “Eh, fuck it. They won’t appreciate the effort.” I hated seeing the dreaded Orange Mailbox. Was it going to be a troll, a nitpicker, or OP asking me to entirely do whatever I was helping them learn.
