Hello, it’s what the title says. I feel like this can’t go on like this, i don’t have real friends and that’s purely because of me not feeling like showing who i really am in front of others. I’m surrounded by people whom I wouldn’t want to even talk to, because they are bigoted or merely ignorant. Instead, I think that by coming out I can get more chances to meet new people with whom I could feel comfortable talking to about my passions and ideas without being afraid to reveal my sexuality. This could also be a way to sort through the people i know around me and understand which one deserves sticking with me and which not. But this could be a bit dangerous, not to the level of risking being beaten up (maybe) but there is the risk of being marginalized by those around me, but then again if this could help me find real friends then maybe it’s kinda worth it. What do you think about this? Has it ever happened to you that you wanted to come out but were afraid of the consequences?
I was very afraid, so much I didn’t consider (and maybe you neither) that it doesn’t have to be an all-in event. You can come out person by person, or if there really is nobody you trust, reach out to other queer people, organizations or online communities. They will always be responsible with not outing you, because we’ve all been through this. Exchange with other queer people helped me a lot with accepting myself and just the joy of being among people who “get me”.
I know the fear of losing friends and I don’t know you, so it might be warranted, but hiding your true self to not lose friends is also a terrible pain you’re afflicting to yourself.
The fact that i’m shy doesn’t really help much… best i could do is to join some online communities but that’s not gonna cut it in the long run. By the way what do you mean by “they will always be responsible with not outing you”?