I am very comftable with he/him pronouns. Always was but recently I noticed that while I don’t go out of my way to use them I’m also fine with they/them pronouns being used on me.
It could be a phase but I’m not sure. It could also be that I tend to use they/them as an alternative in. I’m confused
I’m assuming you’re a cis man, correct me if I’m wrong.
You can go by they/them and still being a man.
Pronouns sometimes have more to do with expression and aesthetic preferences than with one’s particular gender.
It’s also ok to sometimes or always like things that aren’t masculine that doesn’t deny nor contradicts your cis manhood (same applies to cis women liking things that aren’t feminine or using a set of pronoun different than she/her)
You may be gender non-conforming. If you think this gender nonconformity may influence your gender, I’d suggest you to look up Genderqueer Guy/Man
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There’s nothing really wrong with experimenting with gender and pronouns and deciding what works for you. If it feels uncomfortable to use they/them go back to he/him. It’s possible to be nonbinary but close to a man as well.
It’s cool you’re thinking about this! Understanding one’s self is the only path to self-improvement.
Some friends I know who feel similarly just don’t bring it up and set their pronouns as ‘any pronouns’ when asked. can’t say if it’ll work for you but it’s an option to consider.
It’s important to know that experimenting is good! Even if nothing changes in the end you’ll learn more about yourself as a person. It’s always worth experimenting with your gender identity just to see what makes you happy and what doesn’t, no matter what anyone else thinks
Thing is my friends don’t believe in gender identity
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Pronouns are like hats, many can fit you but you will inevitably find one you like more than the others. There’s no rush in finding yours. Feel free to try on a few and see how they fit you. Exploring yourself as a person is a life long journey and if you happen to find you are more comfortable with they/them instead of the given he/him, go for it.
This coming from an agender who just wants my pronouns to fit my appearance at the time. And thanks to being a dad-bodded construction worker, it’s basically going to stick with he/him in person for most of my life.
How do I experiment with it?
If you can’t do it in person due to unsupportive types, there are plenty of sympathetic discords you could join to strike up a few conversations within then to try them on. One of the ones I’m in has a very active voice chat and often has groups hanging out and playing games.
