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    8 months ago

    Girl: Sorry, but I’m not interested.

    Guy: Stupid fat removed slut!

    Who responds like that?

    Edit: Removed unnecessary statement.

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        8 months ago

        I don’t have to be a woman to know that men generally don’t respond like that. This is silly.

        I’ve never seen a man respond like that to being rejected, ever.

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          Do many men hit on you? Are you smaller than them? If not, that could be why you don’t see it happen.

          Of course most men don’t respond this way. But of those people who respond this way, most are men.

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              Probably so, I agree most men probably don’t reply like the comic but it’s not uncommon, I don’t think the artist was trying say it’s always like that but just something women worry about

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          This is so common. We don’t really tend to discuss it really cause it kind of harsh to be public about rejections, but it happens a lot.

          I had a guy ask me out a few years ago, I really delicately explained I wasn’t interested, and he took it really well and we had a hug. I told everyone about that for years because of how surprising it was.

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      8 months ago

      Are people with short tempers more likely to get angry at people who are bigger than them, or smaller than them? Smaller, of course.

      And there you have it. That explains the entire comic. Both women and men can have short tempers, but it’s way easier for a dude to scream at a woman and not end up dead. So it happens.

      This is why they say that, while It’s not all men, it’s almost only men. Because men are bigger and it’s safer for them to be angry and act immature.

      So the stereotype is valid. Don’t get butthurt unless you act like the guy in the comic.

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        8 months ago

        I understand what you are saying, and I don’t want to invalidate your concerns. I can see now that this comic resonates with women more than it would with a man.

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      8 months ago

      You need to touch grass and talk to more women if you don’t know that most women have experiences exactly like this.

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        I think perhaps you do. None of my friends have ever been talked to this way. In what kind of backwards shit hole do you live?

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      A somewhat small minority of men do actually act like that and thus it is assumed that all men are definitely going to act like that so they don’t have to risk danger.

      It sucks horribly for both sexes but unlikely to be a better solution really

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        7 months ago

        Yeah, this comic could reflect the feelings of women who were unlucky enough to meet such outrageously bad people, or at least have the fear of meeting such a person.

        But to say that this is the rule is, I feel, a stretch.

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      7 months ago

      Yeah this is the dumbest comic I’ve ever seen. An absurd characterisation of reality. I thought it was satire at first but the comments seem to be taking it seriously. There are surely assholes out there but to only this is a regular occurrence is some legbeard basement-dwelling incel nonsense.

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        I can’t relate at all either from personal experience. My concern when reading something that I cannot relate to is that what I’m reading could have been astroturfed. We are in a pseudonymous discussion forum where anyone can LARP as anything and make shit up. It’s not a stretch to say that this vulnerability could be used to further agendas through manipulation in an organized manner.

        There are a few ways to verify what people are saying, that I know of. One is to use established studies, and another one is to use anecdotes. But if all I have is hearsay from some internet account, then I can’t take it as truthful until I have something that can verify it. It doesn’t mean I will discard what people say, or not take them seriously, but I will exercise caution.

        Anyway, upon further reflection on what people have said, I am inclined to take the concerns that OP (and others here) express more seriously. It’s wrong to say that these people can never exist, and I would not like to invalidate the fears that some women have for such people. I simply reacted based on my own anecdotal experience, but other people can be more unlucky than I, and may develop said fears.