This looks likes somebody in denial, rationalising their feelings
anon was almost fine till the slut shaming bit. it’s totally valid to have boundaries around smoking and alcohol, especially underage where those are significantly notable red flags.
even rationalizing one’s feelings is a pretty healthy thing to do. far better to acknowledge that the pretty girl had flaws than to pedastal her and pine after an idealized version of her for the rest of his life because that’s just a recipe for depression and self hate.
that said, her sexual history was none of anon’s business, and the fact that he doesn’t even seem sure about it while being willing to judge her character over it speaks volumes.
i hope anon is doing alright and has learned confidence in himself. also hope his relationship with women’s sexuality can improve cuz yikes.
possible slut
Oh no, I could’ve gotten laid! 😭
and herein lies the inherent contradiction of misogynistic objectification 😞😞
woman who sleep with men are sluts. women who won’t sleep with me? also sluts.
perhaps, but he’s right that more likely than not it wouldn’t have ended well. Dating is pain and the idea of romance is always nicer in your head.
Personal growth usually involves pain, but that’s not a good reason to avoid it. Sounds like OP missed out.
attempting to date has only given me pain and misery, trying to court people who turned out to be shitty human beings didn’t make me “grow”, it just made me feel unwanted and worthless.
I mean, if masochism’s your thing, who am I to judge?¯\_(ツ)_/¯
