Deciding whether or not to have children (instead of being resigned to it as an inevitability) is finally gaining social acceptability. But how do you decide such a thing? How do you make peace with the myriad lives you’ve chosen not to live, the experiences you’ve chosen to never have?
This piece is one of the most wonderfully written I’ve ever read about how to choose a path, and let go of the ones you’ll never travel. Truly an enjoyable read, even if you’ve already answered the question “do I have children, or no?” for yourself.
The world would be such a different place if the only children born were passionately wanted by thoughtful, kind people by you.
I am a mom of four who deeply wanted her children…and I think parenthood is probably not for everyone. Think of any other demanding job that lasts for a lifetime that we would say “everyone should do it!” That’s absurd!
I believe we must normalize making the decision not to have children. Life is so full, there are so many ways in which to impact the lives of children.