• lewdian69@lemmy.worldEnglish
      20·
      2 months ago

      You should explain in more detail how that can possibly be the case. What other extenuating circumstances were there? What community or region did this occur in? I’m sorry if this is a hurt you didn’t want to discuss but this makes no sense in the context of DEI programs and their intention.

    • atomicorange@lemmy.worldEnglish
      15·
      2 months ago

      So the DEI program wasn’t inclusive enough? Would the situation have been better without the DEI program? Just trying to understand the issue, typically DEI has the effect of increasing visibility but it sounds like you had the opposite experience.

        • Lumelore (She/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          8·
          2 months ago

          As a trans woman, I don’t see HRT being pushed as the only way to be trans. I think the vast majority of us recognize that there are many different paths people take. I have a friend who can’t take HRT because of blood clotting issues they have, and they are still 100% valid. Even if someone’s health doesn’t prevent them from taking HRT and they just don’t want it, they are still valid as well. The people saying that HRT is necessary to be trans are known as transmedicalists and they are cringe.

          Edit: This got double posted somehow, so I deleted the first one.

        • atomicorange@lemmy.worldEnglish
          7·
          2 months ago

          Thanks for answering, and I’m sorry about the creep in the replies downplaying your advisor raping you. I believe you, and I know it can be especially difficult for people who are perceived as “masculine” to get support when they come forward about being assaulted. Many self-proclaimed feminists still uphold the patriarchy by embracing gender essentialism bullshit. All I can say is, people are imperfect, biases are tough to unlearn, and living up to our ideals is a constant battle against complacency. I still value those ideals (diversity, equity, and inclusion), and I’m sorry the so-called DEI committee at your university failed to embody them.

        • ysjet@lemmy.worldEnglish
          72·
          2 months ago

          I hope you realize how bad this entire chain sounds, and that is WITH your one sided account that’s clearly skimming over things you did, especially the second time you were kicked out.

            • ysjet@lemmy.worldEnglish
              64·
              2 months ago

              I cannot, as you clearly aren’t telling the whole story. All I can tell is that you’re telling a very biased story, and you’re blaming DEI for… squints hiring women? Hiring feminists? It’s hard to tell who exactly you’re blaming for fucking your advisor and not getting abackslap and cigar.

              Which is… Well, right up the alley of someone wanting rid of DEI I guess.

                • ysjet@lemmy.worldEnglish
                  62·
                  2 months ago

                  Where does rape apology come into it?

                  And that’s not a problem with DEI, that’s a problem with academic politics, which is what it sounds to me like you got slapped with, in the best case.

                  In the future, in academics you have to remember that the squeaky wheel does NOT get the grease, it’s considered a problem, annoying, distracting, and it gets removed so it goes away. You have to work bottom-up, not top-down. Top down is only an option when youre good friends with someone above them, or several someone on the same rung as them.

                  tl;dr: DEI sn’t the problem, the problem is a toxic workplace. DEI or no DEI, toxic employees will find SOME kind of structure to exert their will. Throwing away good structures because bad people abuse them is active harm.