I’m currently at this juncture and trying to decide whether to go back to school and start entirely fresh or to hold out for another year or two to see how things go. The anxiety of what the future may or may not hold is real and I’m just standing here, watching the distances shorten faster and faster while still not knowing.

What’s your take, Beeple?

  • hallettj@beehaw.orgEnglish
    8·
    1 year ago

    Yeah, I’ve had similar anxiety recently choosing a new place for my family to live. I think keep in mind that if both choices seem like good options you’re likely to get some good outcomes either way. My wife put it like this,

    What’s nice is the way the human brain works, down the road we’ll be thinking, “I’m glad we made this choice because then X happened.”

    • offendicula@fedia.io
      6·
      1 year ago

      hallettj, I really like your wife’s take!

      OP these two pieces of advice from an old college professor might help:

      • If you can’t choose between two things, make a list of all the pros and cons of the first thing, then a list for the second thing, place them side by side, and make an emotional decision.
      • Always have a Plan B.

      About 15 years ago I left the career path I’d started to move cross country and go to graduate school. I thought I might want to do research. Some wonderful things and some terrible times came out of that. I learned and grew greatly. Strangely I ended back on a similar career path, not as far along as I might have been but not back at the beginning either. Nothing’s a mistake as long as you learn from it. Whichever path you take, check in with yourself sometimes to see if it’s still working for you. If not, ask yourself what you can learn from that info.

      If you have any questions about specifics I’m happy to try and answer.

      • LallyLuckFarm@beehaw.orgEnglish
        4·
        1 year ago

        Growing up (and admittedly into adulthood) I had trouble “quieting my brain” enough to make emotional decisions like the kind you’ve described. One trick that’s really helped me make use of this technique is to assign each option to the face of a coin - in OP’s case this might look like “heads I go back to school, tails I stay at this job”. Then, having assigned each option and telling yourself you’re going with the choice the coin makes, you flip it. Only, what you’re really doing is getting a gut reaction to a decision being made for you, and you go with how you feel about it.

        It was introduced to me as the “zen coin flip” in case anyone wants to learn more about it.

        • Suck_on_my_Presence@beehaw.orgOPEnglish
          1·
          1 year ago

          I’ve done this countless times for smaller things, but I’ve never thought to apply the coin flip to big changes. I’ll give it a shot.