So I’m not 100% sure this is the right sub for this but I couldn’t really find another sort of mod abuse sub that had actual users. I recognize that I am most certainly an asshole in this situation, but I got banned Fedibridge@lemmy.dbzer0.com for a misogynistic comment I left on a completely different sub.
imogen_underscore in that same thread made multiple death threats against me and has only received a 7 day ban. So I want to be clear here that in their eyes a misogynistic comment left on an entirely different sub is WORSE than death threats left in your own sub?
It’s gender neutral when you don’t know the pronouns of a person. Her pronouns are literally in its bloody display name my friend.
Chill out, it can also be used when gender is irrelevant.
Transphobic people regularly use they/them for binary trans people to avoid using their actual pronouns. If you know someone’s pronouns be respectful and use them.
Explain to me how that user’s pronouns are irrelevant when she’s being directly referenced by OP. I’ll wait.
Are you of the opinion that the pronouns are relevant to the length of their (plural their mind you, OP and imogen_underscore) bans or that the discussion here will somehow change depending on their gender?
That’s moving the goalposts by quite a lot.
I would say it is moving the goalposts to the topic at hand, but let’s agree to disagree.
I think a person’s pronouns are always relevant when talking about the person at hand, when they are known. It’s really as simple as that. Anything less, and you are misgendering that person.
And in general I would consider “they” to be “not gendering that person” without adding any negative or positive values to it.
I understand that it isn’t all that simple when it comes to lgbtq and those who are actively misgendering someone as a refusal to accept their gender. Give those fuckers hell, they deserve it, but if it’s possible that someone is using it as I consider it to be used then give them the benefit of the doubt. It’ll make the world seem a bit brighter if nothing else.
We’re not all hateful bastards, some of us just don’t read usernames and are lucky enough to not have to think about pronouns and gender. Thanks for making me think a bit more about it this evening.
This BS is one of the reasons why the left are getting their asses handed to them like fucking everywhere. ‘They’ as a neutral pronoun is used as a fallback when nobody cares to point out the precise gender. You can’t win for losing. Refer to someone’s gender during normal conversation? Sexist. Speaking in a way that doesn’t call out someone’s gender because it is unimportant for the issues being discussed? Believe it or not: sexist? Or what not sexist enough? What is even the problem?
You’ve completely derailed the conversation and soured everyone to your cause(s). GG.
Like the other comment said. Chill.