This is a reasonable take.

Yep, there are instances where rules lawyering way too hard can be detrimental in a situation where the rules… just fundamentally do not well handle a rather niche situation.

And likewise there are situations where disregarding the rules too often, in too many scenarios… well it can just destroy the entire point of playing a ‘game’, feels unfair, you might as well just be doing a collaborative creative writing session at that point.

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If you find yourself frequently running into the first situation, perhaps come up with some modified homebrew rules, made clear to all players before hand, or switch over to a different game, a different ruleset that is better tuned to your players/playstyle.

If you find yourself frequently in the second situation, find a new DM/GM, or stop being a DM/GM, and just be a creative writer… or just make your own entirely new ruleset/game.

If either of these situations only occur rarely, you’re probably doing a good job of being a DM with the given ruleset and given players.