My spouse found the jewelry I was planning to give her, didn’t like it, and has given me a moritorium on purchasing any more jewelry. Please help me, I didn’t have a backup and I want to do better than a rice cooker.

  • ExtremeDullard@lemmy.sdf.org
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    9 days ago

    Write her a poem. Buy her flowers. Invite her to a nice restaurant. Do all of it and more.

    Our marriage has lasted 35 years on non-commercial gifts. We enjoy being thoughful to one another a lot more than spending money on shit. Try it, if she’s truly your soulmate, she’ll appreciate, even if you go about it all awkward-like.

  • SybilVane@lemmy.ca
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    Experiences are always good. Couples massage, dinner at a nice restaurant, go to a theatre, go hiking somewhere special, go to a class together for an activity you can do as a couple, buy a game you can play together, hire a cleaner to come clean your house while you go out for a beach day together, go to a wine tasting, do an escape room, take a tour of somewhere you’ve never visited, etc. The most important aspect of the anniversary gift imo is that it should involve spending time together.

    • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.netOP
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      The most important aspect of the anniversary gift imo is that it should involve spending time together.

      That’s a great insight, thanks!

      • Lime Buzz (fae/she)@beehaw.org
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        9 days ago

        Uh, that’s not quite what we mean, just what she might like.

        We don’t know her so it’s impossible for us to know what she wants.

        In the end it’s usually best to ask somebody what they might like instead of wild mass guessing.