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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
If it’s a conversation about 3rd spaces and a lack of opportunities for IRL social interaction in modern society, I think it’s more apt and more productive to just call it a loneliness epidemic. People who are not cis-men have the same problems of not being able to access affordable, pleasant places to socialize in their communities. Calling it the “male” loneliness epidemic just leads to animosity and division where there should be solidarity.
I mean, the specifically-male loneliness epidemic is a symptom of the patriarchy. Patriarchal societies pretty much define “male” as someone who can’t talk about their feelings. Which is, again, pretty much the definition of the specifically-male loneliness epidemic.
Males are hardly allowed to talk about their struggles, so they frequently struggle with mental health problems on top of that. Feminism, a.k.a. solidarity, is the only way to solve this.