Awoos the Kinkwolf

I have some cuffs, but unfortunately they’re too big, so I don’t get that nice snug fit. Probably not getting the full experience when they’re slipping up and down my arms and legs.

Collars though, mfff~

I kind of have a bit of a fantasy where I’m hypnotized but aware and unable to control my body. And then made to do kinky and/or humiliating things when I’m unable to stop myself. Sounds kind of fun.

I’m not really that interested in kinky stuff in general if the sub isn’t enjoying it, so them being fully unaware (or made to forget afterwords) isn’t really something that interests me. However, making them forget about any triggers or playing around with their perception of the world is fun if they are into it.

Not really an artist, but I’ve tried my hand at writing smut once or twice. Being horny lets the creative juices flow better, at least for me.

However, making art (of any kind) usually involves being hyperaware of your mistakes (so you can fix them) which isn’t really that conductive to actively “enjoying” things.

Given that many artists tend to be very critical of their own work, at least while making it, I imagine it’ll be hard for them to enjoy it in that way as well.

For me, it’s complicated. I guess I’d call myself a switch.

I have a friend who calls me Master who I erp with, but honestly as of late I just wanna relax, not worry and let someone else take charge.

Likewise, when looking at stuff online, I fantasize about being the sub rather than the dom.

I also have no interest in stories about dominant men having huge harems of dry emotionless women. Blegh.

Annoyingly, for me recently horny brain has been butting heads with anxiety brain. And my Anxiety Beast knows exactly just what to say to mess me up. ;_;

Anyway, one big thing is that horny brain sees toys and thinks “ooh that’s nice”, and is only (usually) stopped because toys are expensive. Like, £75 for a pair of fancy latex shorts?

I’ve also had lots of kinky thoughts and plans for myself that fell flat because self bondage doesn’t really work that well for me without someone teasing. I also lack the self discipline to get myself really riled up and frustrated.

Honestly, one of the things I want to try some day is one of those vacbed thingies. If it weren’t for the noise, they sound as if they’d be relaxingly restrictive~

What I found works for me is to just wrap a belt around my belly to secure it; a very low tech solution. :P Sadly doesn’t really work with the stroking part of it, but I don’t think that feels that great either.

For whatever reason those hook toys kinda look scary to me.

Recently got a Lovense Max; a stroker that includes a bluetooth controlled vibe. As a Linux user who has a knack for having things not work, surprised how well it connects to stuff.

Annoyingly, after getting it, I had an (unrelated) mental health issue, which gave me quite bad anxiety whenever I wanted to do anything lewd, which kinda killed the mood… Blegh.

I also seem to get desensitised to vibes after a while, especially if they are at a constant speed. It’s also a bit of a hassle to keep in place.

If I were buying it again… Honestly tempted to get an inertable vibe over a stroker. Seems much less hassle and easier to just passively have turning on and off in the background (could even use it as an alarm). Although I’m not sure how much I’m into butt stuff, tbh.

Honestly, a good kinky animation is really nice (although relatively rare in the fandom - barrier to entry I guess).

Overall, I think I’m mostly visual, although an image with a short story (or a comic) is wonderful.

I do enjoy reading stories, of course, but I think my smut habits probably lean more towards the instant gratification side.

Oh, and kinky and/or furry for me in general.

god i wish that was me

But seriously, so much subtle emotion in that piece, it warms my blackened heart.

… Yeah, I’m really scared and terrified at what the government will require. Especially when it comes to social media services like Discord and others (which it has in its sights). Hopefully nothing will come of it and the internet can go back to what it used to be…

Fuck I’m messed up psychologically. ;_;

Okay, wow. Thanks to everyone for responding, I appreciate it. To be honest, I wasn’t expecting it to be quite so negative about the whole thing. I don’t know why I wasn’t expecting that, considering that we are a group of people that moved from a pro-privacy platform because it wasn’t pro-privacy enough. But anyway.

I think that… Honestly, this being commonplace is going to be inevitable. The global mindset around this is changing, and even though we may fight against it, it feels to me to be an inevitability. Maybe I’m wrong. I hope I’m wrong. But I’m not optimistic.

I mean, I hate it and it sucks, but honestly at this point I’d probably go through with this kind of verification. Assuming I could trust the sites or third party authentication or whatever. I guess my fear of loosing access beats my desire for privacy… And besides, I already pay for stuff on Patreon, so my identity isn’t exactly secret.

One way of doing this privately I did see people suggest (and I think was being looked at by my government?) was the following:

• You buy a card with a code from an IRL shop (who does the age checks with a driving license or whatever), which is valid for 24 hours.
• You make an account with an identity provider using this code (maybe they’ll also want other information as well, because of course they will).
• With this account, you can then generate any number of random single use codes to give to adult sites to log in. They won’t be able to see any of your account details, but they can use it to verify only that you are over 18.

(Of course, I know this isn’t exactly perfect but it’s hopefully good enough)

Hopefully a standard like that can arise, but I assume most third party identity providers will probably just use images of IDs and photographs. At least they promise to delete them afterwards, and I (perhaps naively) trust that most of them will.

Still, on the upside, if Telegram and Discord do go through with this and use proper third party identity services, they can hopefully allow you to share that with servers you’re in, which means they don’t have to do their own verification (which they’ll do sloppily).

Personally, I hope Mastodon and Lemmy integrate support for these third party age verification services rather than pulling out of certain countries on principle.

Anyway, enough devils advocate and hoping that everything will be fine and work out in the end. Downvote away!

Checking the people I follow on my AD Masto, most people seem to on yiff.life , meow.social or rubber.social , so those instances might be worth looking at (although I have a personal and perhaps petty grevance with meow for defeding the first instance I was on).

Content warnings are, as mentioned, also really important. Just remember some people have text based autofilter rules to filter out things, so don’t try to be too fancy with wording.

If you want to maximise reach, remember to use hashtags! Many users use them to find content (you can follow hashtags). If you’re a furry artist, consider #furry and #furryart . And as a convenience for those that want to filter it out, consider #nsfw as well.

If you want to cross post to a Lemmy community as well, you can include something like:

CC: @communityname@instance

In the post body, and it’ll get automatically submitted to the appropriate community.

Decided to make a new community request for it; !stories@yiffit.net is now a thing!

So, in a comment that is now lost to time, I mentioned frustration at Lemmy not having an instance block feature.

Decided to check, and it looks like it’s actively being worked on https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy/pull/3869 .

Doubt it’ll help with defederation (since we are mostly a porn instance after all), but would be good for the common yiff fearing user.

I know I shouldn’t engage, but you are right. Not everyone wants to see furry porn on their all feed. And as a moderator of a porn community I’d like to have the ability to say “you know what, I’d rather posts be unlisted and not appear in the all feed”. Maybe even if I were running my own instance I could block some of the more riskier communities.

But none of these tools exist yet, unlisted posts and per-user instance wide blocklists would be really nice features. If you don’t like this sort of content, you could just mute yiffit.net and go on with your life.

There are two established major porn lemmy instances, both of which are blocked by lemmy.ml. If they saw this as a problem IMO they should implement instance blocking as a priority. But they haven’t, and decided that blocking access to people is the better option. The situation is getting super frustrating at this point.

Honestly probably not that surprising considering they seem to be very anti-porn and I think are the only major instance to actually block you from looking at NSFW content (which makes me wonder how porn got there in the first place, did someone forget to tag something?).

For better or worse, I’m kind of glad that lemmy.world emerged as the big superinstance rather than lemmy.ml, they seem to be a bit more generalist.

Besides a private instance with federation disabled (and even then), I don’t think Lemmy is really designed for private communities. Even in NSFW communities, guest users can still see the posts if they have direct links to them, or use a non-lemmy fediverse viewer ( https://mastodon.social/@gfur@yiffit.net ).

Even if there was a way to do it (perhaps with a Lemmy fork), you also have to trust that any instances users are on also comply with your requests. Depending on your requirements for privacy, this may not be something you want to rely on.

Is this even a desirable feature Yiffit turned on, or is it just a quirk of how Lemmy works? It certainly hurts discoverability of content here, IMO.

You have my sympathies, unfortunately I don’t really know anything that could help.

I can’t say that I’m feeling the exact same way as you, but a few of the things you’ve said really resonate with me. Due to things in my history I won’t go into, I’ve generally not been able to lead a normal “social life”. I’ve never had a relationship or even friends IRL, and even my online social circle has pretty much been a few random people I stumbled into and have stuck with for many years.

I don’t really know how I’d go about getting friends, and even if I did, there’s just this huge wall of social anxiety that feels insurmountable. I want to make furry friends, get involved in the community, meet people IRL, but it’s just so hard for me… Everyone else I see online just seems to be having more fulfilling lives than me, and I’ve basically wasted my twenties…

Anyway, sorry for making things about myself a bit there, been looking for an excuse to vent for a while, tbh.

Only thing I can suggest, and something that kinda worked for me, is to make friends through online games. It’s a good social lubricant and a way to do something with people when you aren’t feeling like a “downer”. Although you run the risk of finding tryhards that are critical of everyone that doesn’t play perfectly…

I guess also think about what you need to actually “open up”. Like, if you were talking to someone, what would make you comfortable enough to open up to them in the way you are looking for?

@Wander@yiffit.net figure I may as well mention something here. https://yiffit.net/post/20 Lists !stories@yiffit.net as a community, but that community doesn’t seem to actually exist. (Might also be worth updating that post to point to !newcommunities@yiffit.net ).

And yeah, I’d love an e621 but for erotica. Tagging would be so nice for written works.