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Cake day: July 29th, 2023

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  • This is not for everyone and it is most certainly not cheap¹, but if you have the time, sewing stuff yourself isn’t actually that hard, a great conversation-starter and can give you stuff that fits you exactly the way you want. You are no longer bound by what some executive morons in the fashion-industry decide is now “in” and has to be worn by everyone (because they won’t sell anything else; I dare you, find me a shop that sells a skirt like this) and you know for a fact that the person who made your clothes was underpaid 😉︎.

    ¹ I’m serious: Even if you (usually unjustifiably so) assume that you already have all the equipment for free, fabric is very expensive!







  • So far:

    Essentially everything that would have told me a few years ago that my wish to be a woman was REALLY not something that cis-people experience and what the actual diagnostic criteria for gender-dysphoria were.

    I was SOOO close to getting it about 10 years ago, it’s mind-boggling. Like I talked to other trans-people I knew at the time about how I suspected that I was trans, I read up on the topic and in the end stupidly decided that all my issues were only that I was lonely and that the only reason I wanted to be a girl was because it would have made dating so much easier and that that wouldn’t translate into dating as a trans-woman.

    I mean, yes, this was a real problem I had, but there were so many other signs that it was not just that and I completely ignored that cis people would not respond to that problem with the wish for a different gender. It’s really as stupid as it sounds, and it cost me very dearly in so many ways.