Mohkia

ADHD here and I do this way to often. I have reminders set to drink water or I will often go a whole day without eating or drinking anything. It is absurd.

Not in tech anymore but I definitely do this with my jobs. It really sucks because I could be doing so much more but I just can’t be bothered to care after the I got a new job and this is interesting phase. But at least I have these random bits of information that I can pretend to be smart with thst come up at the most inopportune times. 🤣 I feel you on the imposter syndrome.

I don’t do a lot of commenting but I just wanted to say thank you for putting your foot down on this. It is incredibly disheartening to keep hearing stuff like that. It discourages people from sharing and learning. It dismisses people’s lived experiences and troubles.

Personally I started to have suspicions about a year ago and it wasn’t due to these memes. It was due to real struggles I am having. I hit rock bottom and just got fed up with my crap amd was finally done running from my problems. I never self disgnosed but i atumbled upon an rlarticle o. Adhd when i was trying tonfogute out why inwas so much fail and it resonated so i started reading and then found these communities which I did relate too way to much. And now as of about a month ago I have a diagnosis. The memes did help encourage me to seek help but they where not the sole reason.

Anyways, if someone relates and it encourages them to seek help I see that as a win even if it turns out they don’t have adhd. And even though many people frown on it “self diagnosis” is a first step for many in seeking an official diagnosis. I really don’t understand this mentality of people dismissing ADHD or gatekeeping it. It’s not like people just want to have ADHD. People are here because they either have it, a loved one has it or they may have suspicions.

I just felt like I wanted to say something because this stuff has really been bothering me. Thabk you for trying to keep this a safe space for us all. Much respect.

Honestly this, if you are at drop sight death is immediate. Worst is on thebout edge where your body slowly melts from radiation exposure. Fun times.

I think there are a lot of computer illiterate people I most generations but there seems to be an overlap of late gen x/early millennial thst kind of had to learn how computers and the internet worked if they wanted to use them as tech wasn’t as easy to use. Plus anyone older than that who used computers where more often considered nerds.

These days more and more people don’t even have a computer and just do everything through their phones.

I dont know, the claws on therizinosaurus are pretty scary. I wouldn’t want to walk up to that and pet it. Hell, I keep my distance from wild turkeys even daily, those barbs are no joke.

Hate that this has to be a worry. Makes it harder for people that actually need help to get help. If I was drug seeking there are easier options than going for a freaking adhd assessment. Oh well, try not to stress over it, and I know it’s hard not too but you can always go to another Dr. Just makes it a pain in the ass. Good luck of you do decide to go through with it.

Pizza for breakfast, skipped lunch and now my husband is making fajitas for dinner. I am thankful he feeds me. Lol. If not for him I would probably forget to eat half the time and then wonder why I feel like crap. Or I would live off chips and beef Jerky or something dumb like that.

I am not diagnosed but have good reason to suspect I have adhd so I am in the process of trying to get a diagnosis. This is kind of it for me too. My brain never shuts up. Weed slowed my mind down and of course made me feel good like you said. I actually had moments if i didnt overdo it where it gave me motivation to actually do something with myself. Fine line though on the amount, kind of needed to microdose for that affect. Otherwise it just numbed me to my own issues and kind of made me not care. Only reason I quit is because my problems i wasn’t dealing with started to catch up with me and I hit a really bad depressive state that kind of scared me after literally everything was crashing in on me. Maybe eventually I will use it recreational again but for now I’m staying away and trying to get real help.

I lost so much freaking weight after I quit. I had zero appetite and had to force myself to eat the bit I did. It was like I was going through a depression or something. But yes, 2 weeks sounds about howblong the worst of it was for me too.

I hear you on the meds. I’m not sure I’m to enthused about those but people keep saying they help so I don’t know. I also know I need to change my behavioral habits I’ve developed over the years but it’s not easy. Just going to go with whatever the psychiatrist says and gk from there. I’m just so tired of my own crap at this point. And yeah, weed made it easier to just be. And I don’t think you have to take medication if you don’t want too. Don’t think they will force it on you.

Used weed for the past 20ish years to make my damned brain shut up and for sleep issues. I quit about 4 months ago after the realization that I might have adhd. Wanted to see if things got better after stopping. They really didn’t. I had no clue that this could be the source of my issues until recently so now I’m over here waiting for an appointment. Self medication and drug/alcohol use is apparently really common with undiagnosed adhd. But damned do I miss it. The first couple weeks where rough, and i do feel like I was having some withdrawal effects from quitting despite people saying it’s not addictive. It was literally giving me easy dopamine so your comment makes alot of sense.

So I want to just add my story to this as I’m currently going through this myself. At least I think I am. I am not diagnosed as of yet but I have an appointment to get things started towards that in a couple weeks. Going to share this anyways.

Anyways, I’m turning 43 this week and the past six months to a year have been super rough for me. I mean, I’ve always had issues but its gotten really bad. I almost got fired this past fall but for some reason my boss wanted to give me another chance. It all started going downhill when my coworker quit and I picked up the slack and took on more work. My boss pulled me aside and we had a meeting and she listed numerous issues she saw I was having. I had caused several minor accidents(i have to drive between accounts), major focus issues, she kept having to repeat herself constantly, running late and rushing and not giving myself enough time tondo mu work, interrupting her all the time, trouble remembering things(she writes stuff down for me now), skipping accounts, timecard mistakes constantly, just a whole cluster of wtf. My home life and marriage was suffering too but I won’t even start on those. All in all u was not having a good time.

I was just feeling awful about it and like I failure, my job is not hard at least it shouldnt be. I went home and started looking up specifically the problems I was having. Low and behold every single one kept coming up as adhd symptoms. I remember sitting there thinking to myself like wait what? And then started thinking about my past and it suddenly kinda made sense there too. so I did a bunch of reading.

At that point I found an article on menopause and adhd and that was enlightening. I realized that even though I’m still regular with my cycle and stuff it could be starting and would make sense why suddenly things are even more difficult. I got through the Xmas season okay, kinda put thst stuff out of my mind and focused on trying to not make a mess out of work but come January I dropped into a state of depression like I had never experienced before. Not even when I got kicked out of college i, not even when I was pretty much homeless and couch surfing at my friends. I have anxiety issues but I’m not normally depressed like that.

I was a zombie, I managed to get myself to work and back but that’s about it. I was just numb and yes I was at the point I wanted to end myself. After about a month of this I came to the realization that I needed help. I finally talked to my husband about it and I got clean off of any substances I was using at the time to try and cope. Started doing more reading and found this group and a menopause group. I have a doctors appointment in a couple weeks and I’m going to see what my options are and if they can give me a referral for testing. I also have an appointment with a gynecologist for the women’s stuff thst same week. I’m stressed but it will be good to know what is going on.

This got really long winded and I’m sorry about that. If you got through this thank you for reading. Hopefully I will have answers soon.

The migration of a certain subreddit I followed over here led me to this instance so here I am.