Oh, so more like you are asking how actualized are your kinks? I think that is a good question. I spent a stupid long time waiting for my sexuality to evolve and turn into what I considered the ‘real’ adult woman sexuality, which involved getting off on taking charge. Like, even though my very earliest sexual fantasies were about being forced (not even sexually, necessarily) and never about anything except that power play stuff, I really truly thought I ought not want it, that it was some sort of unfinished or lazy thing. One day had a revelation that if any of my friends had some kink I’d be so accepting of them, never ever would I think they needed to change, so tried to give myself the same consideration, and am much more in alignment now. So in the scale of acceptance, maybe 8 or so. But I do not agree that everyone ‘vanilla’ is repressing hidden depths of perversity. I think many, probably most people really aren’t. Even those with a healthy sex drive. And no way does everyone have the same levels of general need, it took me 40 years to find a guy who runs as hot as me, get it every day now for about 15 years :)

So you would put more people as kinky because you think most are repressing very dark shit? Maybe, but seems like most people I know kind of don’t care that much about sex, if that makes sense. If it’s more like violence that just sometimes finds a sexual outlet, is that even kinky?

The 1-5 I’d put as:

1 is asexual, do not even feel desire at all.

2 the demisexual who can kinda enjoy it if you do but really are just doing it for someone else they wouldn’t bother for themselves.

3 the people who have to be in love to feel sexual desire, they can be ‘unlocked’, basically, it’s just part of love to them. May actually do more variety of stuff but only for someone else, really do not feel independent sexual desire but love and sex entwined.

4 I think of as the normal people who can enjoy sex as an activity, outside of a relationship just for physical pleasure but it doesn’t pull at them so hard, and they don’t want unusual stuff just sex. Probably don’t seek out sex specifically, but dates,

5 the normal people who are more adventurous, and who get frustrated sooner, have a more active sex drive and will seek out sex partners, will go outside their comfort zone if a partner suggests it. Sexually active normal people I don’t think of as kinky.

I just think probably a very large chunk of people just don’t prioritize sex or need anything very specific.

6. I’ve done and enjoyed stuff I think most people haven’t, and a slap is still faster than a kiss and none of my fantasies are about plain sex, but I enjoy plain sex every day, and counting down I think that:

10 is people who want something that will kill them or someone else.

9 is people who want something that would land them in jail, or literal fetishists who get off on something that doesn’t include what most of us think of as sex, and only that.

8 is people who need something other than plain sex or can enjoy things that most of us find too gross

7 is people who identify mostly as their kink but can enjoy sex without it

Which would leave me at 6. I think way more people are in the 1-5 group than the 6-10 group, it’s not an even distribution. If you are asking where I’d land in the general population of women, that would probably be a different answer.

I can’t say it’s common, and wouldn’t ever have considered asking some random good looking guy to join us, but straight guy MFM is probably more common than you think. When men on the internet talk about threesomes they seem to be thinking about 2 women, but I’ve only done the other kind and it seems like way more fun - I’m straight so nothing really exciting about adding another woman, but two guys? So many things you can do whether they are into each other or not.

I do think it’s more common for couples to approach women though, as I have been propositioned by couples and probably all women have.

Carefully, LOL. Reversed to get benefit of that down curve. Unless you are like 3 feet tall that’s too much to fully fit in anyone, very striking look though.

Ride it reverse cowgirl till I get off then whatever you want?

MFM is two straight guys, one lady. That is fun. I am straight so yes, that means I have done straight threesomes. Have also done some with bi guys, but it’s not a lot different from the perspective of the lady, maybe slightly more relaxed.

FMF I don’t understand - I agree that is probably no fun unless the ladies are bi. But it’s entirely possible to have a good time with two straight guys.

The left middle, it looks like he is telling her she can take it, so hot.

Growers are magical.

I like pictures and love stories but also a forum for questions and advice would be awesome.

Uncut, but it’s a weak preference. I think we all know that most guys did not get to choose.

Please take this as gently as possible from someone old enough to be your mother - if you meet one asshole, they are an asshole. If everyone you meet is an asshole, you are the asshole. If you meet a girl who is stuck up, she probably is. If every girl you meet is stuck up, it’s you.

If you think getting past the “virgin” part will crack a wall for you, then sure, a sex worker might be the way to go, you can explain what you are looking for, maybe get some pointers and practice so you feel not clueless. Most of us, yes women too, did not have ideal or even good first times, no big deal if you want to pay to get it out of the way.

Your looks and style, the best approach is to get yourself in shape for you. Wear the clothes you like. Do the things you like, be your own best self. You absolutely do not need to be stunning in looks, no. But nice enough to be comfortably looked at. Comfortable for you and the one looking. Looks are only the superficial layer but being in shape at least does say something about you, that you care about your physical health.

Beyond that - we are just people! Women are people and we are everywhere. Get used to talking to us like people, make friends, get more comfortable. You need girl friends, not just a girlfriend.

Also I agree that 30s are the worst age to look for a partner, 20s are more open and then around 40 a lot of breakups and movement again. But that doesn’t mean impossible by a long shot. Always there are people looking, especially if you are wanting casual for now.

I am a lady, but letting go like that is “flow” and combined with sexual pleasure is one of the most intense feelings of all. It’s like the rest of the world disappears. Nothing else exists but the pleasure. So glad to know guys can feel that too.

I am a (heterosexual) woman and the only porn I really like is D/s stuff. Threesomes if MFM or MMf (2 dom bi guys, one subby lady) But video is least favorite media. Written stories > pictures > video.

In real life nothing is actually hotter than one on one, it’s the gold standard. Plain ol sex is great. Everything else is good but mostly because it makes that plain sex afterwards so hot. But power dynamics works best for fantasy, always has and I guess always will.

The girl/girl stuff id imagine it’s because we believe the women are actually getting off, and it’s easier to buy in. I don’t enjoy it though, so can’t say for sure.