Is the concern how you’re perceived socially or how you perceive yourself?
What would it take for you to be “trans enough”? Shaving? Clothes? Hormones? Surgery? Gene therapy?
Would you be this gatekeep-y to a random stranger? If not, why gatekeep yourself?
Is it fear of rejection? Of not being accepted for presenting as your authentic self?
Does the label not communicate what you want to express, or does the label have connotations that don’t align with your sense of self? Are those connotations commonly held, or are they negative stereotypes that you’re unconsciously distancing yourself from?
Do you need a positive label to communicate who you are, or does a negative label suffice (IE. “trans” vs. “not cis”)? Are labels a useful tool for you to describe yourself to others, or do you feel the need to conform to the label?
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