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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • There are alternatives to Lemmy. Kbin, I’d argue, is superior in most respects. (Kbin is still obviously young and rough around the edges at times, though.)

    I try to use both equally, because I’m always on the hook for picking the “doomed” standard in any 50/50 contest. It’s easier to read stuff from other instances in kbin, and that gives it the appearance of more frequent and more current activity; lemmy, even on “All/Active” or “All/Hot”, frequently drops 30 threads from one dude at the top of my feed, or I have three pages of threads with no comments and 6 upvotes. So even though I hate how kbin handles viewing pictures thumbnails (click on the post, wait for everything to load, click on the thumbnail, wait for it to load, chuckle, then x out of the picture to read the comments), I end up spending more time there.








  • I’m kind of in the closet because of a lot of this, but it’s weird saying I’m in the closet when I’m ace. Like, on the one hand, what am I gonna do, go around telling everyone I don’t have sex? That’s weird. But at the same time, it’s incredible how much normal small talk interactions with friends and even just-slightly-more-than-strangers revolves around sex and having sex.

    “Sorry about that, I was up late last night and I’m still kinda worn out” “Oh, I’ll bet you were, YOU DOG wink nudge

    or

    “Yeah, my girlfriend and I are going camping this weekend” “Sounds like FUN, amirite? [insert multiple innuendos]”

    or

    “I’m going to be a little late to the get-together; I really need to clean the kitchen before I leave” “Going for that [HOT SEX ACT REWARD] huh? I get it! Go get [THE SEX POINTS]!”

    Like, it’s all over the place. It’s every day. I just kind of nod along agreeably, but I feel like I’m a big dirty liar.


  • “We have no idea, but it’s definitely not that,” is a bit contradictory, don’t you think?

    That’s a technique right out of my ex’s playbook: “Do you know or don’t you?”

    Example: “You said you don’t know how many there are. That means there could just be 1. Oh, but you know the number is more than 1? So you do know? But you just said you don’t know. Are you lying to me?”



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    Yep… people usually interpret “free speech” as “freedom from the consequences of my speech,” but it’s never meant that.

    It’s not even that complicated. To these people, “free speech” only means that they believe they should be allowed to scream literal slurs when they want to make someone feel afraid or worthless. That’s literally the only thing they really want to use “free speech” for.