WrittenInRed (She/Her)

I also went on those “baby name by year” sites for my birth year, but I purposefully went to the 100-200ish range since I wanted a name that wouldn’t stick out too much, but also wouldn’t be so common I’d know or meet a bunch of other people that shared it.

I also had a few other things that would be nice but not necessary that I wanted the name to have, so when reading down the list I had a smaller number of names to consider. One just jumped out at me though, so I tried it out for a bit and ended up sticking with it.

I feel like not having a president would actually be better than newsom tbh

Since middle school and throughout high school and college I got progressively more and more depressed due to repressed gender dysphoria, and starting HRT has almost immediately started reversing that. I had always been outspoken about how gender roles were stupid and never cared about using “women’s” things (like I shared my mom’s hair products and stuff), but none of that changed the fact that I was extremely uncomfortable in my body, and being perceived as a man was something to avoid as much as possible. If people made jokes like “that’s how you know you aren’t a woman haha” I would always fight back against that, but being compared to women felt like more of a compliment.

Plus imo anything a trans person does that could “reaffirm stereotypes” wouldn’t do that more than any cis person doing it. I’ve heard similar things from some cis feminists, where they felt that if they did something stereotypically “girly” it would be hypocritical of them, until realizing that the entire point was that you should be able to do those things if it makes you happy. Avoiding stereotypes can reinforce them just as much as doing them, since then it makes the people claiming the stereotypes as universally true seem like they have a view worth changing yourself for.

I won’t link to any of the articles I managed to find because all of them are way worse than just casual misgendering, but like F04118F said the harassment definitely went way further than using the wrong pronoun/gendered terms and included other teachers vandalizing their room and trying to prevent them from accessing the (already existing) gender neutral bathrooms.

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Yeah, honestly that was the thought that finally pushed me over the edge into accepting I was a trans girl instead of nonbinary or genderfluid or something. Like, I wanted so badly to be a girl at that point that my fear when starting HRT wasn’t "what if I’m making a mistake’, it was “what if I don’t get to be a girl”, which was so obviously trans that it was enough even for me lol.

A lot of mine are the same as ones that were listed, so here are the most stupidly obvious ones I somehow missed (or ignored) for like a decade.

1. I hoped my future partner would be bisexual “just in case”
2. Always being weirdly interested in watching trans youtubers and learning about HRT “as an ally”
3. And also weirdly envious of lesbian relationships, yet finding it hard to imagine myself in a relationship as a guy
4. Whenever I’d see a transition timeline, my immediate thought for transmasc ones was “good for them!”, but for transfem ones it was “dang, that’s goals” followed by “wait I’m cis, where did that come from”
5. I “knew” I wasn’t trans, but kinda wished I could be
6. Just before finally fully admitting I was trans I started HRT so I’d “know for sure”, and was worried that after starting I would realize I wasn’t trans and not be able to keep transitioning lol