Smart people learn from their mistakes, wise people learn from the mistakes of others.

Here to share my mistakes and learn from yours. I generally mean to engage with the best intentions, i apologize if i ever feel abrupt.

Never assume malicious what is equally likely ignorance/over exuberance. 💙

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  • RimWorld and modded Pokemon Scarlett.

    On one hand i am adoring Scarlett more than i expected… On the other, what I enjoy is almost exclusively from the mod, so I don’t know where to even talk about the fun i am having understanding I probably still wouldn’t want to purchase the full game, even with all the fun I am having, because the jank is only tolerable for me on an emulator with mods.

    RimWorld im really into a insectoids 2 mod run. About to try my hand at vanilla expanded genetics with Alpha Animals and Rimbees.

    Im vibrating for stardew valley mobile update. It’s been my favorite way to play and I wanna mod that, too. 😩







  • That giving of yourself and being discerning, you could make sure to find balanced relationships.

    People lie, to you and to themselves. Everyone wants to say they’re going to be their best person when times are tough. Reality can be quite different when the pain kicks in or dynamics change.

    But at this point after countless emergencies while being the one to stand up in the end to carry the sisyphean boulders, the truth is people are going to stand back in a panic when shit hits the fan and I’m going to be the one to figure things out.

    Best compromise I have settled on is surrounding myself with people who will help when I ask. It’s up to me to ask, plan, and keep all our heads above water, which is exausting, but they won’t blow me off.

    It’s the best I have been able to find of the available optional combination of traits in people i find attractive. 🙃





  • XaiwahBlue@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoMovies@lemmy.worldThe decline of sex in films
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    My question would be how much of this is actors no longer being completely subjected to the gross wims of the director. How many scenes had little to do with a story and felt more like the director using the opportunity to make pretty people obey them.

    We have intimacy directors now and what may also be happening is individuals having more say in production and in their bodily autonomy and I don’t see that as an issue particularly.

    Did random sex scenes really hit the level of art for you folks? Is pornography art the same way? 🤔 You know both are made for mass sale and consumption usually, the same way, much more than trying to make content to say anything.

    But um “it so bad we block the titties!” or whatever is popular to say. Even though i personally don’t remember many that added anything story related. Show me them bonding in a real way, sex doesn’t cement anything if you’ve ever had a cheating partner, but a real collection of moments spent together between them that shows understanding and sacrifice for each other can really have an impact.






  • I just checked it out last night, i had a feeling it was a fun project for the actors, regardless of the overall quality, i wanted to see how they enjoyed performing.

    To be honest i didn’t hate it. It was longer than it should be, sucked itself off while also having awkward theater kid feeling moments. But i didn’t find it as disjointed as everyone talked about, if you watch some media that’s figurative you’ll be fine, it’s mostly more or less just a linear narrative following the main characters.

    Honestly it wasn’t the worse use of my time, for me. My partners watched with me and one left feeling frustrated at the conclusion (no spoilers) and felt their time was wasted, while the other just could not have their attention held, there were a lot of ‘i am deep’ shots that if you dont enjoy that you just wont.

    All that is to say I didn’t pay anything for it, so i had less reason to come in with any expectations. Oh, and I never found I liked the Godfather or his other “classics” so i came in expecting an old man’s passion project and that’s what i got. The actors felt like they had a blast so i couldn’t help watching the whole thing for them.

    All and all, if you can see it for free and appreciate it for what it was (a fun bad movie) i think it’s fine. If anything i found the ending to be a bit saccharin for a movie that tried to be dark? Some of the parts wrapped up ridiculously im still kind of stunned.



  • I think the issue people arguing with you that you don’t seem to get is that not everyone does want it to stop.

    You seem blind to that reality that there is a large portion who arent even looking or talking that people are dying.

    Who think what is going on and continuing is fine, or even good or right. And those people are in the positions to even try to limit any of it, and wont.

    You’re not arguing honestly if you really claim the reason no one in power speaks against it is because it’s too hard? That seems really unlikely doesn’t it? “It’s difficult and we’re looking at legal options” and “we will continue to arm and defend them” are wholly different.


  • I would think you’d understand needing to stop and fight for justice is a little more youthful than moving on, not putting a stake in something that’s really objectively a waste of your time and energy vs organizing your own space that accomplishes what you want?

    Or is it easier to white knight and try and demand other spaces cater to you specifically?

    Explicitly you were upset you were properly moderated, then grew indignant. The internet doesn’t exist to make you comfortable, especially in your errors. Now, at this point, you’re just kind of the stereotype “takes online so seriously they’re the other side of the troll horseshoe” because i don’t think you would grandstand so hard in a public space about being told you made a mistake.

    Of course, maybe you would and have lived a privileged life where everyone always bent to you, and that’s another situation entirely. Being uncomfortable for the first time can be upsetting, and tbe internet does allow you to rant in ways i don’t think you would in a real dynamic with people you saw as real and equals in their own space that you entered voluntarily.