You rang?

Hidden by the skirt, I’d assume.

I hate when hat thappens.

Awe, I love you sister , glad I could help <3

It was amazing! I’ve chosen my friends really well. I came out to 7/8 close friends, who are really the only people about whose acceptance I really care. And everyone of them didn’t for a single second doubt my experience and made perfectly clear, that they’ll support me on my journey, however I want to proceed.

Only one friend to tell left, but there really isn’t any fear left of how she’d react. Before I’ve been rather anxious I’d find out there are bigots among them, but they’ve proven me wrong <3. It feels so incredibly good right now to realise I won’t ever have to wear that fucking man mask again, at least in front of them.

Hahaha, whaaaat? Why would I want too look at a male ass all day, I’m sooo hetero.

Asking for a friend.

Can’t remember ever hearing of discussions about whether it was nails or rope, but the no cross thing absolutely.

I’m quiet certain that the actual reason for beliefs like that is just to enforce the idea in their minds, that they’re different, better and the only real christians.

You wrote “I believe that”, btw, thought you might want to edit that :')

It really can be that easy, huh?

I’m on blahaj, so I wouldn’t see downvotes anyway (they’re not federated)

Huh, wasn’t aware, good to know.

Well, you’ve definitely thought about all that for way more than I have, I’m still pretty new to this journey. I do feel a strong desire to pass at some point, but I’m not sure what to make of it at this time.

the blame really belongs on the bigots and their bigotry

That’s something we can absolutely agree on and shouldn’t forget. We are in this together.

I hope you get well soon and wish you the best. And if you’d like, I’ll leave you a virtual hug 🫂.

Something happened which I didn’t believe was possible a few weeks ago: I’ve reached the light at the end of the tunnel. Reconnected with and embraced the woman I’ve hidden deep down inside myself when my surroundings told me I’m a man. She was so scared and alone all her life. Now she’s me and I’m her and we’re in love.

And that’s all thanks to this wonderful community, which I could observe, learn from, and finally felt safe enough to start my own journey. It’s the single best thing that’s ever happened to me and I’ll forever be thankful for that.

I’m sorry you had to go through this and hope you can feel safe here again. It’s not easy to deal with a feeling of being pushed into a corner. I’d like to point out that there seems to have been some consensus on giving you the benefit of the doubt, you haven’t been down-voted after all. Personally I had a bad feeling about that first comment, but wasn’t sure enough to comment.

Communication can be really hard, especially if all you have is words, especially when writing to strangers… I’m often very anxious myself about how to write, it’s even in my profile, kinda like a safety net, in case I fuck up. €: Don’t mean to imply you fucked up - it’s been a misunderstanding!

because such validation would in turn invalidate all non-conforming identities

I wasn’t entirely clear there myself. I’d think the bigoted part of our society would likely use this to invalidate everyone who is non-binary.

Has actually no one ever done this before? It seems so obvious now :3

There she is, the other half of my first real female friendship <3.

I’ve really never felt a sense of belonging like that. It’s very nice :3

I liked that one too, Rilee in my case. When still questioning I’ve had a list of ambiguous names, Jamie and Rilee were the last two contenders.

I just feel like if I don’t set a rigid rule for naming myself, I’ll end up changing it every month. I’m very indecisive.

Yeah, same struggle here. And I’m quiet good at being indecisive.

Awe, what an honor. Do they know?