Women hit puberty a lot sooner than men. My parents didn’t tell me anything about periods or puberty because they were religious and didn’t want to talk about it. Luckily, my school gave me sex ed the year of my first period while I was still in elementary school at age 10, so I wasn’t freaked out when I had my period and knew I needed a pad. Girls have been getting their periods even more early than that nowadays. Sex ed isn’t about just having sex or what sex is, it’s about your body and how it is developing. Then once I hit high school I was given more in depth sex ed about how to be safe, types of birth control, the menstrual cycle (which was already covered in elementary school but a good refresher), and other health topics like mental health.

I didn’t like the filter. I shouldn’t have to submit a photo of my arm to “prove” I am mixed with black, my skin tone also isn’t dark so I might as well be lying. I never participated because of the filter, it brings up painful memories surrounding my heritage and skin tone and childhood. I think it’s an odd choice to prevent most of reddit from commenting and preserve a safe place. I get that it cut down on racists, still don’t feel comfortable about it. I don’t know what other tests they put people through, the photo test was the one talked about a lot.

There is an ally flair I remember seeing but I don’t want it. I don’t want a label because if I say I’m mostly Latino, I’ve had people tell me that makes me white and not a POC and will never know what racism is and I get basically shut out. But also I’ve had people, even family members, be racist to me about being mixed with black. I guess I don’t belong in the conversation.

I’ve also had run ins with some of the black power mods, yellow rose, and she expressed not wanting me to participate at all because I believe while white people can’t be systematically oppressed the same way in America, you can still be racist to them. She runs the main sub about racism on reddit, they only talk about white supremacy because that’s the only type of racism in their minds. It makes me just not want to talk about my experiences because they aren’t valid. I will never be black enough or white enough or Latino enough.

I didn’t post a lot but I was definitely anxious about commenting because if it wasn’t worded just right, someone would take it out of context and be offended by it or downvote it to hell. I remember telling someone that I loved their poems - downvoted. I corrected someone about the difference between ESAs and service dogs - cue arguments when they can just literally read the ADA (law). I apologized for getting something wrong - insults and talked down to. I also remember being told that latinx is what trans Latinos want people to use, I used it and was greatly talked down to and told I’m not a real Latino. It felt like reddit was just really hostile no matter what I did. There were many times I wrote a comment but then discarded it.

[link text](/c/community@instance.com)

Crashes jerboa

[!community@instance](instance/c/community)

Opens the community in a new browser where you are not logged in

!community@instance

Does not work, thinks it is an email address and prompts to open in your email app

The problem is jerboa, I believe it is being looked into by the devs

It sounds like they micro-manage too much, they’re complaining about having to moderate thousands of posts and their comments while trying to keep their server up. They should instead have moderators of each community be in charge of their own community and only if a community is reported to be doing what they don’t want (rampant hate speech) then they can … ban them? I actually don’t know how it works on lemmy. But that sounds better than the server owner trying to control everything. I’ve only run into lemmy.grad talking about communism once, didn’t care for the discussion so moved along. And one person talking about trans people and detrimental effects of hormone blockers (judging by the other comments, this person was banned). Besides that lemmy seems left leaning. This long rant idk rubs me the wrong way. Taking too long to get to their point.