I think it’s because a lot of her fans were like “hang on, she’s just misunderstood, she’s not really transphobic, just doesn’t want those fake transes going into women’s spaces”, and Rowling kept it pretty vague, open for misinterpretation, not really ever able to be pinned down as actually being provably transphobic in the minds of many.

But something happened recently and it tipped her over the edge, from keeping her donations low key and her transphobia aimed at the theoretical “not really a woman ‘trans-identified-male’ boogeyman-woman” (who doesn’t really exist), to outright making open donations to anti-trans groups and attacking real trans women.

All the sudden her supporters are like… Wait, this is not who we thought you meant… Where are these scary men? The ones invading women’s spaces that you were talking about?

I also agree.

While I couldn’t care less (it’s their body and bodily autonomy is super important to me), I’d be a little hurt if they didn’t tell me about it.

In that case I’d be more interested in talking to my partner to try and understand why they felt that they couldn’t talk to me about it and needed to keep it a secret.

I asked my AI and that was its thought also.

Okay, the new media cache server was locked up. Fixed the code and redeployed it. Images should come good after a page reload.

I would suggest getting 'Nutter to drive us in, but it’s going to be hectic out there, and ze doesn’t really like too much traffic.

For transparency and posterity the maintenance log is here: lemmy-2023-09-03

Lemmy was running a bit slow on the new database due to too few slots in the pool.

I’ve increased and seems to be keeping up now.

The maintenance has completed and everything is now running from our new database.

Thanks for your patience while we performed this migration.

You are super welcome, lovely.

It brings Ada and I a whole heap of pleasure running these instances and it’s largely knowing that we’re making a difference to our users, and providing a safe space for you all to grow and flourish that makes it all worth it for us.

Oh let me count the ways…

Ada is super smart and knowledgeable across a broad range of topics from physics, astronomy and technology all the way to the subgenus species and origins of varieties of birds.

She’s pretty, loving, caring, empathetic. She has a big strong heart.

But the ruthlessness and absolute conviction which comes out whenever she sees something wrong… that is honestly the most awesome thing about her. The way she goes from zero to 100 in under a second, that’s her true superpower, and quite something to see.

I’m somewhat enamored, tbh.

It’s okay…

Ada is actually really great, and a tech girl in her own right.

She honestly just lets me play being the tech wizardess cause it goes with my aesthetic.

I used to be on patches (until they became hard to get), not pills, so I can’t really compare, but I have observed that since I started injectable E, the effectiveness has increased noticeably.

That said, at least here in Queensland, the availability of prescriptions for injectable esters other than valerate here is next to impossible, and even then convincing your doctor to prescribe valerate is really hard.

I have been watching my love tie herself in knots over the last several days, having to deal with the drama that has been brought on, trying her best to bring everyone back together.

There’s been bad behaviour from both sides, and I’m really disappointed to see that some of the worst of it came from our users, who didn’t keep to the moral high ground, disregarded our instance rules and stoopped to levels of behaviour worse than that leveled against them.

There have been accusations against us (or Ada specifically) that we are a safe harbour for bad behaviour and cause harm to trans people through our inaction.

This is perhaps the cruelest accusation they could have leveled at Ada, as she works tirelessly to maintain a safe space for our community, and while I was hoping, for all the effort that she was investing into this issue, that she could make it work despite my own reservations, this last attack on her impeccable morality has made me very angry.

I’m sorry for those that wanted to remain federated, sorry that it came to this, but I am glad it’s over now, purely for the mental health of my precious beloved.

I had emergency cosmetic surgery after my accident and remember up to the anaesthesia counting down from ten to about four, and then waking up afterwards.

We aren’t defeferated from them. That’s different from hosting that content ourselves though.

I’m not personally against piracy, however hosting that kind of content here ourselves would put our primary reason for creating this space (that of providing a safe social space for trans and LGBTQIA+ people) at risk.

I just wanted to point that out before we get a whole bunch of piracy subs created on our instance that we’d have to remove.

I would point out that piracy is against our ToS, so we wouldn’t tolerate hosting piracy subs ourselves.

Fixed it! The new pict-rs config file example had a pre-processing example line I missed that was munging the images as soon as you uploaded them.

Okay, check it out now, fully restructured, migrated and upgraded pict-rs to v0.4.2, and imagemagick is all sorted out too,

Pict-rs was what caused the extra downtime, and I’m still fixing it up. I’ll make sure uploads work again before I finish up.

Okay, so that was way more painful than expected… /sigh