One way I’ve seen this put is don’t be nice, be kind. Nice is performative and ‘nice’ people can be two faced because they’ll be ‘nice’ to both a bully and the bully’s victim.
Being kind is more about empathy. And if you have empathy, you won’t tolerate bullies. It’s far more genuine and not just a performance for whoever you’re currently in the company of.
One way I’ve seen this put is don’t be nice, be kind. Nice is performative and ‘nice’ people can be two faced because they’ll be ‘nice’ to both a bully and the bully’s victim.
Being kind is more about empathy. And if you have empathy, you won’t tolerate bullies. It’s far more genuine and not just a performance for whoever you’re currently in the company of.