Here is what I would like to say of my experience. Not to snap at this, or provoke a battle-of-the-genders. Just to say what I’ve experienced.
I’m a recovered germophobe but I still do the cleaning because it’s not even work to me, it’s just a casual part of my routine. I cook all from fresh and every meal, because I lost like 58kg after getting over my ED. My mother was insanely (abusively) strict when we were just small kids, so we were trained to clean the dishes, put things away, blah blah.
But anyways after sobering up and lots of therapy, the bad parts (the obsessive parts) of all that went away, but doing that stuff had just become an ‘easy’ part of my life.
But here’s the little thing I don’t even want to say. Women hate that shit lol. Isn’t that awful to say? I’m always taken aback when I’m scolded for doing the things women say guys should do more of ahha
I think at my age it’s a lot of the entrenched gender roles biting all sides. Yes, please open up the gates to the domains women historically have controlled. Guys need to shape up in a general sense in these areas, but let us in plz!
I agree, I’m just trapped in my generation and I hate it
And as much as people can verbalize the “right” things, people don’t actually hold those attitudes deep in their hearts and they’re not reflected in their actions to the degree we would hope
The number of people assert the way things should be but then don’t actually want it is quite shocking to me
Here is what I would like to say of my experience. Not to snap at this, or provoke a battle-of-the-genders. Just to say what I’ve experienced.
I’m a recovered germophobe but I still do the cleaning because it’s not even work to me, it’s just a casual part of my routine. I cook all from fresh and every meal, because I lost like 58kg after getting over my ED. My mother was insanely (abusively) strict when we were just small kids, so we were trained to clean the dishes, put things away, blah blah.
But anyways after sobering up and lots of therapy, the bad parts (the obsessive parts) of all that went away, but doing that stuff had just become an ‘easy’ part of my life.
But here’s the little thing I don’t even want to say. Women hate that shit lol. Isn’t that awful to say? I’m always taken aback when I’m scolded for doing the things women say guys should do more of ahha
I think at my age it’s a lot of the entrenched gender roles biting all sides. Yes, please open up the gates to the domains women historically have controlled. Guys need to shape up in a general sense in these areas, but let us in plz!
I am a stay-at-home dad. The amount of people bewildered by that is bewildering 😅
But my wife gets more shit anyway, because now she’s apparently a really bad mother, who provides for her family 😅😅. bUt ThAt’S a MaN’s JoB.
Tradition seems hard to kill.
I get what you’re saying, but the attitudes are luckily changing and the amount of women who frown on men doing housework is rapidly shrinking.
I agree, I’m just trapped in my generation and I hate it
And as much as people can verbalize the “right” things, people don’t actually hold those attitudes deep in their hearts and they’re not reflected in their actions to the degree we would hope
The number of people assert the way things should be but then don’t actually want it is quite shocking to me