Given the state of “conventional” these days, I’d be insulted if someone said I’m not queer.

Would you say that you’re perhaps even the queerest of the queer?

Given my experience with “normal” people, I would rather be strange.

That’s fair, and totally makes sense! I tend to like it as a descriptor for myself right now, because I can use queer as a catch-all that is faster and easier than “transfemme nonbinary pansexual”

I appreciate that, and you Identify however you want too.

But I want to communicate otherness and strangeness. In a world that continually tries to force cis and straight as default, I want to confront people with the reality that their assumptions are bullshit. I don’t want them to gently put it down and move on, I want to smash it with a sledgehammer.

And as bullshitty as it is to need people in this position, it provides cover for those in the closet, and those who want to fly under the radar. I’m the queer cousin. I’m the weirdo that wears skirts and makeup sometimes. I’m the one that will enforce pronouns for those who can’t for themselves.

I’m fucking weird and I love myself. Using “queer” as my label says “You can’t use this to hurt me, because it is me. You can love my weird too, or take a fuckin’ hike.”

And as long as this weirdo is normal in their life, they can get used to it, and then it won’t be weird anymore.

I was so sheltered as a kid, I didn’t even understand why the rest of the kids were not willing to call it “smear the queer” when we were playing lol

now i are one

actually yeah most people i’ve met irl don’t even know what queer means, so i have to explain it every time it comes up. but gay is universally known so people will just use it as a slur

You should try being the queer, I’ve heard it’s even better

FYI borderline and sociopathy are actually two different things it’s not just euphemism. Borderline is also extremely treatable despite popular media representations