What the title says. Well intentioned, often other “neurodivergent” people look at your life, your autism, and say: “you should mask harder.”
For example, I accidentally said something that offended a friend. Won’t go into detail, but it was me unintentionally coming off as arrogant, not something bad like a slur or hate speech.
I asked for advice (elsewhere) and the advice was universally, “you see, NT avoid this topic at all costs. Going forwards, know it is best to avoid this topic.”
But isn’t this just saying “mask harder and be more palatable for everyone else”?
Every piece of “autism advice” I see even in “neurodivergent friendly” communities is basically “how to be less autistic.”
What counts as “politeness” is meaningless. For example, it’s stupid that we aren’t “allowed” to discuss pay.
Who counts discussion of salary as something impolite? It’s the first time I (NT) hear about it.
I’ve heard that. It may differ depending on culture. Some see it as bragging. In some places it’s illegal to discuss in the workplace.