• Kaput@lemmy.world
    181·
    2 months ago

    How can i tactfully say: i aggree you are a person and will treat you as such. However humam nature is such that your very pleasing apparence is currently shorting pathways from visual cortex to the brainstem. Or in short, i’m turning dumb right now, please hold while i get accustomed.

    Of course im mot going to have that conversation, its juste replying to this post.

    Sometime it feels like going from a dark room to full on sun, and the brain needs a little time adjusting.

  • TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world
    14·
    2 months ago

    I think it was George rr martin in an interview was asked why he wrote women well

    “Well you know, I’ve always considered women as people.”

    https://youtu.be/fGmctvlITtI

    Even though this is the same man who wrote the “fat pink mast scene.” Lactation and all

  • qaz@lemmy.worldMEnglish
    91·
    2 months ago

    Could you please mark it NSFW and tag it as described in the rules?

    • PugJesus@piefed.socialOPEnglish
      7·
      2 months ago

      Marked it as NSFW, not sure what to tag it. I didn’t NSFW it initially because there wasn’t any nudity or near-nudity, and I didn’t think it needed it?

    • PugJesus@piefed.socialOPEnglish
      23·
      2 months ago

      Finding people sexy is fine, but treat them as people first and foremost. Degrading and objectifying people isn’t humanizing, obviously, but neither is idolizing them or projecting an idealization of a romantic partner.

      • wrinkle2409@lemmy.cafeEnglish
        1·
        2 months ago

        Could you also explain what you mean by “objectification” and how is it different than “finding people sexy”

        • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
          5·
          2 months ago

          Generally, the not bothering of interacting with someone as a person beyond the sexual. It’s fine in certain contexts, namely one’s where that’s what everyone goes into the space looking for, but for contrast I typically know a few non sexual things about someone after a night of heavy flirtation and making out ar a bar

        • PugJesus@piefed.socialOPEnglish
          5·
          2 months ago

          Interactions with people aren’t prizes, and shouldn’t be conceptualized as such.

          “Humans have needs and desires” and “Humans should conceptualize the fulfillment of their needs and desires as separate from the people they interact (and resulting consequences) with to achieve them” are two different things.

          Most basic idea, do unto others. People sometimes want to feel wanted, even in just a purely carnal sense; people generally do not want to feel treated like an object, an abstract, or a piece of meat in the process.