• thepig@lemmy.zip
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    2 days ago

    It is selfish, you have a kid because you don’t want to handle other people’s opinions about you, giving in to the pressure is easier that standing your ground, more comfortable to. So because you don’t want to argue with your parents and deal with the backlash, you decide to bring another human being into existence. That’s pretty selfish

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      2 days ago

      @thepig oh man, sooooo many people fit this mold. “Because I have to. Because its what you do”. No. Its not. You dont have to do ANYTHING.

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        2 days ago

        Indeed, I do not want to shame people who decide to have a bunch of kids if they truly want to, but they should really think about their choices and the consequences, because at the end of the day, those people that pressured you into having a kid will not help you if things go wrong, I’m talking about mental and physical illness, I am talking about financial destitution, I’m talking about accidents, and 1001 other things that can happen

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          1 day ago

          @thepig everyone wants people to have kids, no one wants to pay or take the time for them. If you dont have immediate family nearby, have fun with $2k/month daycare bills on $9/hr minimum wage! Its a joke.

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            1 day ago

            Truly, and then the kid is going to suffer from lack of opportunities and even resources, but it’s somehow ok cause they wanted a kid 🤷🏻 and we should all sUpPoRt ThAt.

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              12 hours ago

              @thepig maybe some people cannot control their biological desires. Obviously its normal to want a kid because biology demands it. I however feel 0 desire for it.

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      1 day ago

      Meeting your obligations is the most unselfish thing you can possibly do. Doing things out of obligation to others is the fundamental unit of unselfishness.

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        1 day ago

        Not really, standing up to what you know is right, even when it gets you criticism, that is not selfish. Doing things cause people tell you to do and you don’t want to bother going against the flow cause it’s uncomfortable is pretty selfish. What obligation ? Our planet is over 8 billion people, do you think the human race is going extinct? It might very well go extinct if people keep pumping up children like there is no tomorrow, consequences and lack of resources be damn, I want a kid.