I have seen in many US shows where they portray guys who are living with parents as losers, or there are jokes or memes about it, I never get it.

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    Mainly the push for a false family narrative called the ‘Nuclear Family’, which was idolized since the 60s as a pop psych experiment that has obviously failed.

    Some claim it was deliberate to prop up the nursing home industry and to force middle class families into poverty by making it less likely they pool their resources.

    Some claim it was a marketing move, as ‘nuclear family’ homes are significantly less happy per capita than homes with 3 generations living under one roof. Happy people buy less shit to make them happy.

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      Nuclear families are already a big thing since the industrial revolution. Yes there was an idolizing happening, but this is not the main reason for it being so wide-spread. With wage labour, urbanization and higher mobility it is just fitting quite well to the overall circumstances, to not have multi-generational homes

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      If both people in a marriage have very specialized jobs it’s hard enough to find two jobs in the same city. Imagine doing this with two or three generations of people.

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        Um the kids and grandparents aren’t working, or to be more accurate: the grandparent’s job is taking care of the kids, and considering how expensive child care is, it’s cheaper just to give your granparents room and board. Plus they’ll love the time with the kids.

        PLUS 2 incomes required for a family is one of the most destructive economic moves we have ever made, and it has done untold damage to our child raising practices.

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          What about uncles and aunts? Grandparents don’t just have one family to take care of. Also when I was born my grandparents were still working a long time, and now I have a son and his grandparents will be working for 15+years at least. I could never ever get my parents to move closer to me. Also they would have to abandon my siblings who live closer to them.

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          Not if you have a bery specialized job, or a job that requires moving. Think about doing a PHD, or even just being a teacher in germany the state will sort you into a school. You cannot not pick a city as a teacher, just give 3(?) preferences.