• kippinitreal@lemmy.world
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    7 days ago

    @criitz made an good point in a reply to a comment in this same chain: https://reddthat.com/comment/16623939

    Essentially, if we made fun of his head shape, someone normal with a simar head shape is going to read: “that head shape is bad” & is going to be hurt & more self conscious of something they can’t control. That is collateral damage to an innocent bystander you may not have intended.

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      7 days ago

      That’s…such a non-issue. If that totally devastates someone, maybe they should work on their resilience or fortitude? Do we really need to pull out the world’s tiniest violin for every contingency?

      Glad you understand it, though.

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          Definitely, especially when the “damage” is meaningless, imaginary, clearly not even directed at them, and well within someone’s capacity to disregard & not take personally.

          They really need to bring back the “Sticks and Stones” nursery rhyme: cultivating all this fragility & learned helplessness ain’t serving humanity.

          The Mesopotamians had some cool myths extolling humanity’s ability to endure the gods’ multiple attempts to exterminate them with disease, pestilence, drought, great floods. I think people have some capacity to get over themselves & endure some ridicule not directed at them. Imagine if the Mesopotamians instead wrote legends of the gods exterminating or curtailing humanity with the slightest hint of ridicule directed elsewhere.

          Enki, however, as always never at a loss for creative ideas, devised a way that he hoped would finally solve the problem caused by the quarrelling gods themselves. He decreed that from now on the humans’ lifespans would be severely limited from the outset (in biblical terms to 120 years) by the indirect ridicule of their peers.

          Beyond pathetic.

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          7 days ago

          How soft are people that something like this causes damage to them?

          I’m a fat fuck, but if you were to call, say, the current president of the US, a fat fuck, I’d just laugh and keep scrolling. It’s clearly not directed at all fat people, but rather just the one that’s causing a lot of people misery and therefore gets a lot of well-deserved hate.

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            7 days ago

            That’s great to hear you claim to have above average resilience to emotional harm, but not very great that you’re making fun of people who don’t have that.

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              Where did I claim to have above average resilience to emotional harm? I’m probably way below average. I just don’t see what the big deal is with anonymous online comments, nobody should be taking those at face value. Remember when every 3rd sentence you heard in online games was “I fucked ur mom last nite”?