If I walk into a woman’s apartment, and one of the first things I see is something like “can’t handle me at worst”, and I <3 Dylan, posters I am probably going to end the pursuit of this relationship. I would do this because I have seen this common thread with people who do this. That common thread is that they have personality disorders, or are otherwise unstable. Pattern recognition is a survival instinct. Pattern recognition can be wrong, but this isn’t seeing faces in wood grain. This is seeing aspects of people’s personalities that they, themselves, value to the point where they spent money to display it on their wall.
Beyond this specific situation, you know how many times I have seen “it’s just memes” turn into “I am now in favor of an ethno state”? The average person to white supremacist/whatever pipeline created by the social influence of fora for “it’s just memes/jokes” is real, I have watched it happen. Feel disaffected from society? Well I am here to ease you into the idea that it isn’t your fault, it is the fault of women, and brown people, starting with some casual jokes, and memes.
Being a nice person isn’t bad but “nice guy” is a term for someone who presents themselves as nice and polite (but only to people they’re attracted to) and expects romantic attention in return for being nice. Basically, they think the fact that they put so much effort into being nice they deserve that romantic attention. They’ll often talk about how nice they are.
Of course, anyone who needs to repeatedly tell you they are nice tend not be.
Ok. Thx. I am not from the US and in my 40s. This whole thing of labeling people into categories is somewhat foreign to me. I mean my generation over here did this as well to a degree (and I admit I never got it), but it appears this has become much more dominant thin (at least at the other side of the pacific).
I also tend to aggressively ignore things I deam stupid. But my children will be teenagers soo, guess I’ll have to put some time into researching these kind of things.
This, and, speaking for myself, I once thought that’s literally how you attract someone because that’s what my mom taught me. “be nice to women, find a nice girl, ???, marriage.” in that order. But I was nice to everyone, not just people I liked.
The one time I ever talked about how nice I thought I was, was when I was 18 and the girl I liked called me creepy when I was being nice to her all the time showering her with compliments and ttying to hang out with her. I went on this little rant, out of frustration, on FB in a status update about how women were removed for not liking me and calling me creepy when I’ve just been trying to he nice to them. Yeah, at that point, that status update wasn’t exaclty being nice to anyone.
Actually that was probably when I took a look at myself and realized just being nice isn’t gonna cut it, and my mom’s advice was shit. THEEEEEN, a few years later I heard about Nice Guys™
It’s okay I’m now 32 and I have seen the light, it’s just took me until a couple years ago to figure it all out
You apparently have been living under a rock because there is a world of difference between someone who is nice and also a guy and someone being a “nice guy”.
Also the posters are red flags not because they reference nerdy things but because they show an unhealthy obsession with fictional characters who, though charismatic, are evil people who justify their violent actions with straw man arguments about power and corruption. The words on the Thanos poster put an especially fine point on that part.
The posters are red flags for “nice guys” and other very problematic people
It’s just a bunch of memes. Let the guy decorate his apartment how he wants.
If I walk into a woman’s apartment, and one of the first things I see is something like “can’t handle me at worst”, and I <3 Dylan, posters I am probably going to end the pursuit of this relationship. I would do this because I have seen this common thread with people who do this. That common thread is that they have personality disorders, or are otherwise unstable. Pattern recognition is a survival instinct. Pattern recognition can be wrong, but this isn’t seeing faces in wood grain. This is seeing aspects of people’s personalities that they, themselves, value to the point where they spent money to display it on their wall.
Beyond this specific situation, you know how many times I have seen “it’s just memes” turn into “I am now in favor of an ethno state”? The average person to white supremacist/whatever pipeline created by the social influence of fora for “it’s just memes/jokes” is real, I have watched it happen. Feel disaffected from society? Well I am here to ease you into the idea that it isn’t your fault, it is the fault of women, and brown people, starting with some casual jokes, and memes.
I must be way too old. Being a nice guy is bad? Fuck, I’ve been living under a rock. Is this about incense or this sigma thing?
Edit: Lol, why the downvotes? You guys aren’t nice!
Being a nice person isn’t bad but “nice guy” is a term for someone who presents themselves as nice and polite (but only to people they’re attracted to) and expects romantic attention in return for being nice. Basically, they think the fact that they put so much effort into being nice they deserve that romantic attention. They’ll often talk about how nice they are.
Of course, anyone who needs to repeatedly tell you they are nice tend not be.
Ok. Thx. I am not from the US and in my 40s. This whole thing of labeling people into categories is somewhat foreign to me. I mean my generation over here did this as well to a degree (and I admit I never got it), but it appears this has become much more dominant thin (at least at the other side of the pacific).
I also tend to aggressively ignore things I deam stupid. But my children will be teenagers soo, guess I’ll have to put some time into researching these kind of things.
Bro yall labeled people too quit acting like it’s so :pinches nose: unthinkable! I don’t even know where you’re from and I know that’s bullshit.
Here we are. Adapt. Take responsibility.
This, and, speaking for myself, I once thought that’s literally how you attract someone because that’s what my mom taught me. “be nice to women, find a nice girl, ???, marriage.” in that order. But I was nice to everyone, not just people I liked.
The one time I ever talked about how nice I thought I was, was when I was 18 and the girl I liked called me creepy when I was being nice to her all the time showering her with compliments and ttying to hang out with her. I went on this little rant, out of frustration, on FB in a status update about how women were removed for not liking me and calling me creepy when I’ve just been trying to he nice to them. Yeah, at that point, that status update wasn’t exaclty being nice to anyone.
Actually that was probably when I took a look at myself and realized just being nice isn’t gonna cut it, and my mom’s advice was shit. THEEEEEN, a few years later I heard about Nice Guys™
It’s okay I’m now 32 and I have seen the light, it’s just took me until a couple years ago to figure it all out
Cool Matt
Yessir! ❄️🔥🪛🔧🪜
You apparently have been living under a rock because there is a world of difference between someone who is nice and also a guy and someone being a “nice guy”.
Also the posters are red flags not because they reference nerdy things but because they show an unhealthy obsession with fictional characters who, though charismatic, are evil people who justify their violent actions with straw man arguments about power and corruption. The words on the Thanos poster put an especially fine point on that part.
Nice guy and “nice guy” are two different things