To this day, she remembers the racing thoughts, the instant nausea, the hairs prickling up on her legs, the sweaty palms. She had shared a photograph of herself in her underwear with a boy she trusted and, very soon, it had been sent around the school and across her small home town, Aberystwyth, Wales. She became a local celebrity for all the wrong reasons. Younger kids would approach her laughing and ask for a hug. Members of the men’s football team saw it – and one showed someone who knew Davies’s nan, so that’s how her family found out.

Her book, No One Wants to See Your D*ck, takes a deep dive into the negatives. It covers Davies’s experiences in the digital world – that includes cyberflashing such as all those unsolicited dick pics – as well as the widespread use of her images on pornography sites, escort services, dating apps, sex chats (“Ready for Rape? Role play now!” with her picture alongside it). However, the book also shines a light on the dark online men’s spaces, what they’re saying, the “games” they’re playing. “I wanted to show the reality of what men are doing,” says Davies. “People will say: ‘It’s not all men’ and no, it isn’t, but it also isn’t a small number of weirdos on the dark web in their mum’s basements. These are forums with millions of members on mainstream sites such as Reddit, Discord and 4chan. These are men writing about their wives, their mums, their mate’s daughter, exchanging images, sharing women’s names, socials and contact details, and no one – not one man – is calling them out. They’re patting each other on the back.”

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    1. That’s not even true

    2. Black communities have faced generations of systemic racism, segregation, economic disenfranchisement, and over-policing, all of which contribute to crime statistics. That is not the case for men in general. So even if it were true (which it’s not) it can still be explained by systemtic oppression and widespread racism.

    Men are the oppressor, black people are the oppressed. It is punching up vs punching down. They are not comparable.

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      Oppression Olympics does not excuse racism nor sexism.

      Men are not the problem, rapists are. Black people are not the problem, poverty is.

      If you can understand one, you can understand the other. If you have a problem with one, you’re a bigot, not a victim.

      Stop defending bigotry and attack the actual problem, or get lumped in with the rest of the literal nazis saying the same thing you are, just with a different immutable characteristic in its place.

      ‘mexicans are rapists’ is the literally exact same rhetoric as ‘men are rapists.’ there is no difference whatsoever. It is as equally as disgusting. It is as equally wrong.

      Men are not the oppressors, they are a gender like any other. Until you understand that you will never change a single thing and will just make the world worse.