• TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world
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    23 hours ago

    Definitely. Looking like Henry Cavill makes it easier, but confidence is really the main attraction. I know less attractive men sleep with Victoria’s Secret-type women. And there is actually a study on men who are perpetually single, and the common denominator is being under-confident. But at the same time, you don’t want to be overconfident and thus arrogant.

    • HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world
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      23 hours ago

      oh totally. my wife is gorgeous, and she spent a bit too much time in our social circles single because everyone (myself included) was too intimidated to ask her out. we were friends for ages, she started giving me a hard time about having her number for like eight years but never asking her on a date, my ego wasn’t going to stand for that and here we are.

      • pmk@lemmy.sdf.org
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        22 hours ago

        To be fair, it took her years to ask you to ask her. She could have just asked too.

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          My wife asked me out. Only time a woman has ever done that to me. Only time she had ever done it. I thought she was attractive but I honestly didn’t expect that. Knowing what I know about her now, it took a lot of courage for her to do that.

          She shot her shot and hit a bullseye. There are no good reasons for women to spend all their time waiting on men to initiate.