I’m having the exact same issue. Never taught me any life skills. My mum was told by the GP to get me tested for aspergers (as it was then) when I was 15, and she sat on that for over 10 years. Meanwhile I grew up hating myself for not being able to do things that my peers could. Things got worse when I had to get a job and I didn’t have the social knowledge to pass interviews. My self esteem got worse, my anxiety ruled my life. I would keep attracting men who treated me like dirt and I couldn’t let go because I was so desperate for someone to love and accept me.
She passed away three months ago and now my dad wants to kick me out and I have no freaking idea how to survive in the adult world. I don’t know how to go about renting or setting up utilities, I struggle with navigation so my fear of getting lost stops me going places. I’m going to have to leave London because I can’t afford a place here. All I get is, when are you moving out? Dad wants to sell the house. It’s not fair to deprive your sisters of their share of the house. No offers of help. No acknowledgement that decades of my mum wrapping me in cotton wool and controlling me has left me dysfunctional.
Similar story here. It really sucks to feel like I’m still learning how to be a functional adult. I hope you keep making progress and celebrate all the little victories along the way.
I do wonder how different if have turned out if I’d had just one person tell me there’s a medical reason for why I struggle. That I’m not a failure or useless or stupid, I just struggle in a world not designed for me.
Since December, my almost 15 year old budgie died, I finally ended things for good with my toxic ex, my mum has passed away (I still love and miss her, her overprotective behaviour was from her own childhood trauma), my dad wanting me out and now I’m being made redundant again. I feel like everything is pointing me in the direction of moving away, but it’s hard when no one showed me how. But maybe I can finally be in control of my own life. It’s just very very scary taking those first steps.
Edit: your username sounds British (my a makes me look American, but I’m just a weird British baseball fangirl). If I figure things out, I’d be happy to share my wisdom.
I was thinking if no one’s done it already, if I learn to be an adult, I could write a full guide for how to adult for us neurodivergent folk and others who were left behind.
I’m having the exact same issue. Never taught me any life skills. My mum was told by the GP to get me tested for aspergers (as it was then) when I was 15, and she sat on that for over 10 years. Meanwhile I grew up hating myself for not being able to do things that my peers could. Things got worse when I had to get a job and I didn’t have the social knowledge to pass interviews. My self esteem got worse, my anxiety ruled my life. I would keep attracting men who treated me like dirt and I couldn’t let go because I was so desperate for someone to love and accept me.
She passed away three months ago and now my dad wants to kick me out and I have no freaking idea how to survive in the adult world. I don’t know how to go about renting or setting up utilities, I struggle with navigation so my fear of getting lost stops me going places. I’m going to have to leave London because I can’t afford a place here. All I get is, when are you moving out? Dad wants to sell the house. It’s not fair to deprive your sisters of their share of the house. No offers of help. No acknowledgement that decades of my mum wrapping me in cotton wool and controlling me has left me dysfunctional.
Similar story here. It really sucks to feel like I’m still learning how to be a functional adult. I hope you keep making progress and celebrate all the little victories along the way.
I do wonder how different if have turned out if I’d had just one person tell me there’s a medical reason for why I struggle. That I’m not a failure or useless or stupid, I just struggle in a world not designed for me.
Since December, my almost 15 year old budgie died, I finally ended things for good with my toxic ex, my mum has passed away (I still love and miss her, her overprotective behaviour was from her own childhood trauma), my dad wanting me out and now I’m being made redundant again. I feel like everything is pointing me in the direction of moving away, but it’s hard when no one showed me how. But maybe I can finally be in control of my own life. It’s just very very scary taking those first steps.
Edit: your username sounds British (my a makes me look American, but I’m just a weird British baseball fangirl). If I figure things out, I’d be happy to share my wisdom.
I was thinking if no one’s done it already, if I learn to be an adult, I could write a full guide for how to adult for us neurodivergent folk and others who were left behind.