the observation about taking things literally really resonated with me

I have a strong tendency toward that, it’s from too long in relationships where there was no joking or fun , also a lack of self trust in figuring things out

And I just this past week noticed Miss Seagoon is the same , I joked that the chairs and loos in NZ were all too low, and in a way laughing at myself for being a but unfit, and could barely get up. A half day long lecture on fitness and strength training for seniors ensued.

I just have to tell her not to be so serious and not take me so seriously. We do laugh a lot but not enough.

How did we get this way. More importantly, how to get past this. I think awareness is best. No need to pathologise everything, it’s just a habit.