Thankyou for sharing your story… Wow I could relate to much of this, the whole too much a girl to be included with the boys and vice versa, and even the Hot Wheels (mum stubbornly kept buying me dolls and I’d put them in the cupboard and refuse to play with them). I can see Miniest as NB, if anyone in the family is going to challenge binary thinking it’ll be her! I try to tell my kids I love them no matter what quite often; my own mother’s love was strictly conditional and transactional and I suffered greatly because of it. I think you’re right too about her trying on a few different labels and identities as she grows, I can really see her doing that.