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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

  • Impassionata@lemmy.worldEnglish
    11·
    8 days ago

    What is this place anyhow? I get pushback on .world for telling feminists that men’s problems won’t be fixed if they understand the patriarchy harder, and here people are defensive of the notion that politics made some men really shitty.

    Did a bunch of lonely men end up here instead of lemmy world?

    • MotoAsh@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      8 days ago

      You are making the mistake of anthropomorphising communities. There are no singular trains of thought here. There are just people of many sorts posting messages for others to read. Full stop.

      The only instances that might warrant some anthropomorphizing are those with stated goals and admin approved joining. That is the only condition a singular identity of some sort should be expected to arise.

      The only sort of unifying factor for lemmy is “not reddit”, which includes nerds of many sorts, leftists of ALL sorts (which is its own entire topic of how freaking diverse that is), and the few who simply want to try a different media that’s like reddit.

      You seem to be using politics as a cudgel against men instead of attempting to understand the social forces that are creating this problem in the first place. There are forces that push ignorant men to those politics you’re so fond of making fun of. Forces that come before the politics.

      You can pretend to not understand all you want, but your ignorance won’t be tolerated for long here.

      • Impassionata@lemmy.worldEnglish
        11·
        8 days ago

        You are making the mistake of anthropomorphising communities. There are no singular trains of thought here. There are just people of many sorts posting messages for others to read. Full stop.

        Yeah ok but you are not immune from having a local culture sorry

        leftists of ALL sorts (which is its own entire topic of how freaking diverse that is),

        so is it like the subset of leftists that isn’t outright commie?

        You seem to be using politics as a cudgel against men instead of attempting to understand the social forces that are creating this problem in the first place.

        yes, because using the cudgel is preferable to endlessly theorizing

        You can pretend to not understand all you want, but your ignorance won’t be tolerated for long here.

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