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  1. Married adults have markedly more sex than their unmarried peers, but the sex recession is also making inroads among married couples.
  2. When it comes to sexlessness (“no sex in the last year”) among young adults, the biggest change comes post-2010.
  3. Between 2010 and 2019, the average time young adults spent with friends in a given week fell by nearly 50%, from 12.8 hours to just 6.5 hours.

Source: Institute for Family Studies.

  • Pat_Riot@lemmy.todayEnglish
    233·
    4 days ago

    After reading this comment section I feel lucky for me and sad for many of you. My wife and I have been together close enough to a decade to not split hairs. We average 4 times a week. We aren’t just still attracted to each other, I would say attraction has intensified between us. And we know how to get each other off and both enjoy doing it.

    We work well as a team, have defined goals for the future, blah blah blah, it sounds cliche as I type it, but it’s true. We like each other. That seems to be uncommon. My coworkers all complain about their spouses and SOs. They also removed about never getting laid.

    Maybe our relationship is different because we were two people who knew themselves pretty well and were up front about who we were from the beginning. Maybe we were just lucky.

    • Septimaeus@infosec.pubEnglish
      122·
      4 days ago

      Thank you for this. It’ll be downvoted by unhappy people, but others need to know that a chaste Gilead relationship isn’t their only choice.

      My partners and I have sex at least once a day, and in general are physical and affectionate throughout each day. We had each been in relationships before with lower libido individuals and learned how difficult that can become over time so that part of compatibility was important to us before we found each other.

      It really makes a world of difference to find compatibility there. Most of life becomes easier. Healthy perspectives are easier to achieve. Physical health and fitness improves. Just knowing you can easily bring joy to someone you care about by helping them orgasm makes a lot of troubles feel insignificant.

      And it’s just something fun and intimate that people can do together. There are many ways to express love in a relationship, like so many dances in our repertoire, but the most universal among them is sex.

    • RBWells@lemmy.worldEnglish
      6·
      4 days ago

      Yeah, we have been together a dozen years and have sex every day. I don’t understand complaining about your spouse, and my husband says the same. But we are old, I think it’s easier, you make better choices.

      I will say I feel really lucky though, sex -wise, and don’t think it’s usual.

      Sorry for the following sweeping generalization but: Mostly guys seem to say they want everyday or more until they find someone who does, then get upset if they aren’t the one with the higher sex drive. There’s a very strange subconscious assumption that it’s unfeminine or something. They feel better if they are the ones who want more than they are getting.