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Cake day: June 4th, 2025
  • FoxyFerengi@startrek.websitetoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Does anyone have any hopeful success stories of surviving abusive parents and finding happiness later in life?
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    9 hours ago

    I was a little bit younger than you are when I went no-contact with my family. I have also been disabled since I was 19, and later in life was diagnosed with ADHD and a Cluster C personality disorder (I’m goddam terrified of everything). I very much relate to that feeling of “I should be/wish I was dead by now”.

    It’s hard, I won’t lie to you. There have been times I wished I had a family to rely on, but once the wishful thinking wears off, I realize they’d just make whatever I was going through so much harder. Also, my mother has narcissistic tendencies, and my moments of happiness and accomplishment are mine now. That one change was huge for my self-esteem and confidence. Eventually you’ll become your own person and not intrinsically linking everything you do and are to your parents.

    I’m in my late 30s now, and I’m going to graduate with a BS very soon. There’s a lot more help for college students in the US than I think many people are aware. You’re disabled so you qualify for TRIO support. I have worked for TRIO in two capacities, and one of the things we do is help people find and apply for scholarships. You also have the option of doing a work-study (at my uni you can be paid $3500/semester). I currently work for upward bound, the TRIO program for high schoolers, and one of the things I do with them is help them find colleges that fit them. I’m more than happy to help you figure out what is a good fit for you and start working on scholarships! I’ve also moved around a lot, so I might be able to point you towards cities that you’d like.

    Something very cool is that some US universities have sister universities abroad, so you can take part in an exchange program. My university has a sister uni in Ireland. There are also work study programs abroad in almost every continent (you could spend a paid-for summer in Thailand, for example).

    Right now I’m looking to get my doctorate in Europe. It is possible to be disabled and achieve academic success! I had a hard time learning that I can trust people for support, but you’re already far ahead of where I was at your age. You’ve got this!

  • FoxyFerengi@startrek.websitetoTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Estrogen - cis man response?English
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    1 day ago

    I’ve read that excess testosterone can be converted into estrogen, but I can’t imagine that imbalance would have the same effect as hrt

    I don’t know if this is a welcome contribution but I’m afab, and was on t briefly. I had to stop because it made me very sick, and I never experienced euphoria from it. That sucked, and it still sucks. My point is, even after not having a good experience with that hormone, I still desire the changes it can give me. My body not tolerating the hormone doesn’t mean I’m cis, it’s more likely that it means I need a different formulation.

  • FoxyFerengi@startrek.websitetoScience Memes@mander.xyz•OnLy tWo eLemEnTsEnglish
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    4 days ago

    Not all articles that are peer-reviewed and given a doi are credible. Peer reviewers are directly contacted by the editor(s) of a journal, this can introduce bias. That journal, its current and past editor, and the sources of the opinion article have all been advised of bias.

    I already had them tagged as “Richard Dawkins lover”, had to laugh when the article they posted had Dawkins as a source almost immediately.